Beyond the To-Do List

In this episode, Cynthia Kane, author of The Pause Principle: How to Keep Your Cool in Tough Situations, joins the show to discuss how to improve communication by mastering the art of pausing. Cynthia, a communication expert, explains why taking a moment to pause before reacting in difficult situations can lead to more effective and mindful communication, preventing misunderstandings and reducing stress. In this conversation, we explore: The Power of Pausing: Cynthia discusses how the pause is a critical tool in communication, especially in high-stress situations, and how it can prevent knee-jerk reactions that lead to regret. The Science Behind Our Responses: We explore how our biology and evolutionary instincts push us into fight, flight, or freeze modes during stressful conversations, and how pausing helps override these instincts. The SOFTEN Method: Cynthia introduces the SOFTEN method—Sensation, Owning your discomfort, Focusing on the present moment, Taking a breath, Eyes towards another, and Need to say—and explains how each step can help us communicate more effectively. Building the Habit of Pausing: Cynthia provides practical tips for incorporating the pause into our daily interactions, whether in personal or professional settings, and how to recognize when we’re falling back into old communication patterns. The Digital Disconnect: We talk about how to apply the pause principle in digital communication, where the immediacy of responses can often lead to more miscommunication and stress. Cynthia’s approach to pausing offers a simple yet powerful way to enhance your communication skills, reduce stress, and create more meaningful conversations. Learn more about Cynthia and her work at CynthiaKane.com and find The Pause Principle wherever books are sold. Connect with Erik: ⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠  ⁠Threads⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠  ⁠⁠⁠⁠Bluesky⁠⁠⁠⁠ This Podcast is Powered By: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Descript⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Descript 101⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Castmagic⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Ecamm⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Podpage⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Rodecaster Pro⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Top Productivity Books List⁠⁠⁠⁠ Make sure to support the show by⁠⁠⁠⁠ checking out the sponsors⁠⁠⁠⁠! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this Shortcast edition, Cal Newport, author of Digital Minimalism: Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy World, shares how we can reclaim our time and attention by taking control of our relationship with digital technology. Rather than rejecting tech entirely, Cal proposes a minimalist approach—using technology with intention and only when it supports what truly matters. In this Shortcast, we explore: Digital Minimalism Defined: Cal explains how minimalism isn’t about abandoning tech, but using it selectively and purposefully to maximize benefit and minimize distraction. The 30-Day Digital Declutter: A key process in Cal’s philosophy—taking a 30-day break from optional digital tools to reflect, reset habits, and rediscover values. Clearing the Slate and Starting Fresh: Cal encourages removing all non-essential apps and tools, then rebuilding your digital life from the ground up based on what serves your goals. Embracing Analog Life: Real-world activities like solitude, deep conversation, and hands-on tasks are vital for human well-being—and often lost in a screen-saturated culture. Mental Health and Focus: Cal highlights how overuse of screens increases anxiety and fragments focus, while digital minimalism promotes clarity, calm, and purpose. Cal’s insights are a powerful reminder that the goal isn’t to use less tech, but to use it better—with clarity, intention, and aligned values. Learn more at CalNewport.com and explore more ⁠Shortcasts like this one on ⁠⁠Blinkist⁠⁠⁠. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this special Shortcast, Jess Cording, author of The Little Book of Game Changers: 50 Healthy Habits for Managing Stress and Anxiety, shares practical strategies to manage stress and anxiety by making small, sustainable changes across mind, body, and spirit. Jess offers gentle, doable practices that go beyond willpower—emphasizing progress over perfection. In this Shortcast, we explore: Scheduling Worry Time: Rather than ignoring anxious thoughts or letting them spiral, Jess shares how setting aside designated “worry time” can help free up mental space and increase focus. Finding Your Caffeine Sweet Spot: We discuss how caffeine affects productivity and stress, and how small swaps—like reducing serving size or switching to decaf—can restore balance without total deprivation. Creating a Loneliness Game Plan: Jess highlights how identifying personal, enjoyable activities to do when loneliness hits can protect both mental health and productivity. Mind, Body, and Spirit Alignment: The episode encourages a balanced approach to self-care, recognizing that managing stress isn’t about grand gestures but consistent, mindful tweaks to daily routines. Sustainable Wellness: Jess’s tips focus on low-pressure, practical strategies that anyone can start implementing right away—even on a busy schedule. Jess’s insights are a powerful reminder that small, intentional steps can help us manage anxiety and lead a more focused, grounded life. Learn more about Jess at JessicaCordingNutrition.com and explore more Shortcasts like this one on ⁠⁠Blinkist⁠⁠. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Shira Gill, author of Lifestyle: Your Guide to a More Organized and Intentional Life, joins the show to discuss her approach to minimalism and intentional living. Shira, a professional organizer, shares how she applies the principles of minimalism not just to physical possessions but to all aspects of life—helping to create space for what truly matters. In this conversation, we explore: The Meaning of Minimalism: Shira discusses how minimalism is not just about owning less but being radically intentional with your time, energy, and resources, and how it helps to clarify your values and priorities. The Power of Volume, Systems, and Habits: We dive into Shira’s toolkit for simplifying life, which includes managing the volume of commitments, setting up simple systems, and creating sustainable habits that align with your goals. The Volume Problem: Shira explains why many people’s clutter and stress aren’t about disorganization, but about the sheer volume of things they’re trying to manage, and how reducing that volume can be transformative. Creating Simple Systems for Busy Lives: We discuss how simple, intuitive systems (like Shira’s easy filing method) can save time, reduce friction, and maintain order without overwhelming yourself with complexity. The Importance of Saying No: Shira emphasizes the importance of recognizing when to say no to commitments, distractions, and activities that don’t align with your core values, which is critical for maintaining clarity and energy. Shira’s insights provide practical strategies to help you simplify your home, work, and life, creating the space and time needed for what really matters. Learn more about Shira and her work at ShiraGill.com, and find Lifestyle and her other books wherever books are sold. Connect with Erik: ⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠  Threads ⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠  ⁠⁠⁠Bluesky⁠⁠⁠ This Podcast is Powered By: ⁠⁠⁠Descript⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Descript 101⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Castmagic⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Ecamm⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Podpage⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Rodecaster Pro⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Top Productivity Books List⁠⁠⁠ Make sure to support the show by⁠⁠⁠ checking out the sponsors⁠⁠⁠! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Jim Guinn, co-author of How to Get Along with Anyone: The Playbook for Predicting and Preventing Conflict at Work and at Home, joins the show to discuss the art of conflict prevention. Jim, an expert in mediation and conflict resolution, shares practical tools for recognizing and managing conflict before it escalates into full-blown disputes. In this conversation, we explore: Predicting Conflict: Jim discusses how many conflicts can be anticipated and prevented by recognizing common triggers and understanding different conflict styles. The Power of Recognizing Triggers: We talk about how both recognizing your own triggers and understanding the triggers of others can help de-escalate potential conflicts in real-time. Types of Conflict: Jim breaks down three main types of conflict—task-based, process-related, and relational—and how each affects our relationships differently. Conflict Resolution Techniques: We explore effective techniques for handling conflict, including the use of specific strategies based on your conflict style and the person you are dealing with. The Importance of Emotional Regulation: Jim highlights how understanding emotional responses and learning how to regulate them can prevent conflict from escalating to a level where it negatively impacts relationships and productivity. Jim’s insights offer valuable tools for navigating conflict in both personal and professional environments. His approach helps people create stronger connections by proactively managing differences before they turn into bigger problems. Learn more about Jim and his work at TheConflictDocs.com. Connect with Erik: ⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠  ⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠  ⁠⁠Bluesky⁠⁠ This Podcast is Powered By: ⁠⁠Descript⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Descript 101⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Castmagic⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Ecamm⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Podpage⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Rodecaster Pro⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Top Productivity Books List⁠⁠ Make sure to support the show by⁠⁠ checking out the sponsors⁠⁠! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this special Shortcast edition, Baratunde Thurston, shares his experience of unplugging from social media for 25 days—and what he learned about stress, productivity, and the importance of being present. Baratunde reveals how stepping away from constant digital interaction can lead to more meaningful real-world connections and less burnout. In this Shortcast, we explore: The Cost of Constant Connectivity: Baratunde explains how being “always on” took a toll on his mental health, productivity, and relationships, and why unplugging was the antidote. The Value of Presence: By exploring neighborhoods in New York without his phone, Baratunde rediscovered the value of shared experiences, analog socializing, and being grounded in the real world. Social Media as a Second Job: Baratunde highlights how social media transforms everyone into an amateur content creator, adding stress and metrics to everyday life. Challenges of Disconnecting: We discuss why platforms make it difficult to unplug—emotionally and logistically—and how Baratunde navigated the manipulation tactics of social media companies. Reclaiming Leisure and Focus: Baratunde shows how unplugging helped him be more present with others, less distracted, and ultimately more productive. Baratunde’s insights remind us to reflect on our relationship with social media and make conscious choices about how we engage with it. Learn more about Baratunde and his work at Baratunde.com and explore more Shortcasts like this one on ⁠Blinkist⁠. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Melody Wilding, author of Managing Up: How to Get What You Need from People in Charge, joins the show to discuss the often-overlooked skill of managing up. Melody shares insights on how to communicate more effectively with those in higher positions, ensuring that you get the support and guidance you need for your career while maintaining a positive working relationship. In this conversation, we explore: What “Managing Up” Really Means: Melody explains that managing up isn’t about manipulating your boss, but about clear communication, setting boundaries, and ensuring your needs and expectations are understood. The Importance of Alignment: We discuss how aligning with your manager’s goals and expectations can help you achieve personal success while contributing to the team’s overall objectives. Building Healthy Communication: Melody emphasizes how open and honest communication is key to reducing friction and increasing productivity, especially when you’re managing different working styles. Creating Visibility: We talk about how to make sure your contributions are recognized and how to ensure your value is communicated in a way that aligns with both your goals and your manager’s. Boundaries and Feedback: Melody shares strategies for setting healthy boundaries with your manager, giving constructive feedback, and advocating for yourself in the workplace. Melody’s approach to managing up is a practical guide for anyone looking to improve their relationship with their boss, gain clarity about expectations, and move forward in their career with confidence. Learn more about Melody and her work at ManagingUp.com, and find Managing Up wherever books are sold. Connect with Erik: ⁠LinkedIn⁠  ⁠Facebook⁠  ⁠Bluesky⁠ This Podcast is Powered By: ⁠Descript⁠ ⁠Descript 101⁠ ⁠Castmagic⁠ ⁠Ecamm⁠ ⁠Podpage⁠ ⁠Rodecaster Pro⁠ ⁠Top Productivity Books List⁠ Make sure to support the show by⁠ checking out the sponsors⁠! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Courtney Carver, author of Rest More, Stress Less: How to Live the Life You Actually Want, shares her transformative approach to prioritizing rest and reducing stress. Courtney, a simplicity and decluttering expert, discusses how rest is not just a reward but a necessity for productivity, creativity, and overall well-being. In this conversation, we explore: • The Importance of Rest: Courtney explains why rest should be prioritized, not as a reward, but as an essential part of life and work. She discusses how our productivity and creativity improve when we take time to rest. • The Three Seasons of Gentle: We dive into the book’s three-part structure: Rest, Less, and Rise. Courtney explains why rest is the foundation that allows us to simplify our lives, reduce stress, and ultimately rise into the life we truly want. • Breaking Free from the Busyness Trap: Courtney reveals how our society’s overemphasis on constant productivity can lead to burnout, and how intentionally doing less can lead to more meaningful results. • The Power of Decluttering: We discuss how simplifying our physical environment by letting go of excess stuff can ease mental clutter and reduce decision fatigue, making space for more peace and joy. • Energy Management and Chronic Illness: Courtney shares her personal experience managing multiple sclerosis and how counting “spoons”—a way to measure limited energy—can help in making mindful choices about how we use our time and energy. Courtney’s approach to living with less, embracing rest, and prioritizing what truly matters offers practical solutions for anyone feeling overwhelmed or burnt out. Her insights provide a roadmap for living a life with more meaning, purpose, and peace. Learn more about Courtney and her work at bemorewithless.com, and find Rest More, Stress Less wherever books are sold. Connect with Erik: LinkedIn  Facebook  Bluesky This Podcast is Powered By: Descript Descript 101 Castmagic Ecamm Podpage Rodecaster Pro Top Productivity Books List Make sure to support the show by checking out the sponsors! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this special Shortcast edition, Jeremy Kubicek, author of The 100X Leader: How to Become Someone Worth Following, shares how we can lead with both support and challenge to help others reach their full potential. Drawing inspiration from Sherpas guiding climbers on Mount Everest, Jeremy illustrates what it means to lead others by being fully for them and helping them succeed—not just in tasks, but in personal growth. In this Shortcast, we explore: What Makes a Leader Worth Following: Why being “for” the people you lead matters more than authority or performance. The Sherpa Analogy: Leaders should guide, support, and empower others like a Sherpa helps climbers summit Mount Everest—and then helps them down again. Support + Challenge = Growth: Jeremy outlines how to calibrate the right mix of support and challenge in your leadership style to avoid extremes like fear-based or overly permissive leadership. Calling Up vs. Calling Out: A key leadership shift is learning to call people up to who they want to be, rather than calling them out with shame or frustration. From Subjective to Constructive Feedback: How shifting from judgment to objective, prescriptive feedback builds trust and lasting influence. Whether you’re managing a team, parenting, or looking to grow personally, this episode offers simple but powerful strategies to lead with empathy, clarity, and effectiveness. Check out Jeremy’s book The 100X Leader and explore more Shortcasts like this one on Blinkist. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices