All Mom Does Podcast with Julie Lyles Carr

With holiday hosting just around the corner, queen of hospitality Abby Kuykendall is the perfect person to help get you in the right frame of mind! Abby joins AllMomDoes podcast host Julie Lyles Carr to discuss what true hospitality is all about, and how to let go of stress, expectations, and perfection so you can focus on your people instead!

Show Notes: https://bit.ly/3K9KQbz

Takeaways:
Hospitality connects people and is a way to show love.
It's important to redefine hospitality beyond entertaining.
Cultural pressures can hinder our ability to practice hospitality.
Setting boundaries is essential for healthy hospitality.
Authenticity in hospitality leads to deeper connections.
Women often bear the mental load of hospitality tasks.
Introverts and extroverts experience hospitality differently.
Throwing off expectations can enhance the hospitality experience.
God calls us to practice hospitality regardless of our skills.
The journey of hospitality is about being true to oneself. I'm not carrying that torch alone.
We have to look at our calendars.
Set that up at the beginning.
Take the stress off of yourself.
Potluck it up, man.
A coffee meetup in the front yard.
Opening our resources to be hospitable.
Using your resources to build those connections.
We can distract ourselves away from what the point is.
I want to focus on and he's like, Oh, if it was dirty.

Sound bites:
"It's not about trying to be Martha Stewart"
"I'm not carrying that torch alone."
"We have to look at our calendars."
"Set that up at the beginning."
"Take the stress off of yourself."
"Potluck it up, man."
"A coffee meetup in the front yard."
"Opening our resources to be hospitable."

Chapters:
00:00 Introduction to Hospitality and Connection
01:53 Redefining Hospitality: From Entertaining to Authenticity
04:58 Cultural Pressures and Expectations in Hospitality
10:06 Overcoming Anxiety and Setting Boundaries in Hospitality
18:51 Navigating Different Personalities in Hospitality
21:56 Navigating Hospitality with Family Dynamics
22:47 Planning and Preparation for Hospitality
24:56 The Power of Potlucks and Delegation
26:55 Innovative Approaches to Hosting
27:53 Hospitality Beyond the Home
29:38 Building Relationships Through Shared Experiences
31:33 Creating Presence Over Perfection
33:23 Teamwork in Hospitality
35:57 Setting Expectations in Co-Hosting
37:33 Connecting with the Audience

Keywords:
hospitality, connection, authenticity, cultural pressures, boundaries, introverts, extroverts, community, anxiety, expectations, hospitality, family dynamics, planning, potluck, hosting, relationships, presence, teamwork, expectations, community

In elevating opportunities and understanding for girls, there's a group that's gotten left behind; boys. With fewer male college admissions, longer days sitting at desks in the classroom, and a generation who has substituted real adventure and challenge for video games, it's no wonder parents are trying to figure out how to best raise their sons. Author and boy mom Rebekah Lovell joins Julie Lyles Carr on the AllMomDoes podcast to share how she's maximizing work and play for her boys to prepare them for their lives as men.

Show Notes: https://bit.ly/3WLGdHs 

Takeaways:
Raising boys involves understanding their unique wiring and energy.
Boys often express themselves through physical activity and exploration.
It's essential to balance nurturing with allowing boys to take risks.
Boys need to learn emotional regulation and resilience.
Mentorship plays a crucial role in a boy's development.
Boys thrive when they feel challenged and capable.
Encouraging boys to take on responsibilities fosters independence.
Boys can learn valuable lessons from hero stories and role models.
It's important to celebrate masculinity without diminishing femininity.
Creating a supportive environment helps boys navigate societal pressures.

Sound bites:
"We want boys who launch."
"Boys need to know they measure up."
"Boys need to know they can try again."
"We want good men who will lead."
"Boys need mentors to guide them."
"Boys are hero worshippers."

Chapters:
00:00 Navigating Boy World
04:31 Understanding Boys' Nature and Nurture
10:39 Emotional Landscapes of Boys
13:54 Raising Resilient Sons
19:07 Challenging Passivity in Boys
30:06 Finding Male Mentors for Boys

Keywords:
raising boys, boyhood, parenting, emotional intelligence, masculinity, boys' nature, nurturing boys, resilience, mentorship, family dynamics

What should you be saying to your kids? In a time of gentle parenting, the come back of authoritative styles and more, it can be confusing to know how to talk to your kids and how to correct them. Amy Hughes joins Julie Lyles Carr on this episode of the AllMomDoes podcast to unpack what's up with parent speak.

Show Notes: https://bit.ly/47gtJO3 

Takeaways:
Writing is often a reflection of what we need to hear ourselves.
Gentle parenting is a response to authoritarian styles of parenting.
Language choices can significantly impact a child's emotional health.
Phrases like 'don't be sad' can shame children for their feelings.
Encouraging children to express emotions is crucial for their development.
The balance between authority and gentleness is a common struggle for parents.
Children need to learn how to navigate different communication styles.
Role-playing can help prepare children for real-world interactions.
Awareness of harmful phrases can lead to better communication.
Parenting is a journey of learning and growth for both parents and children.

Sound bites:
"This needs to be its own book."
"Don't be sad is shaming."
"Hurry up can cause anxiety."

Chapters:00:00 
Introduction to Parenting Dynamics
02:51 The Importance of Language in Parenting
05:53 Navigating Emotional Expression
10:00 Replacing Harmful Phrases
12:07 Building Emotional Resilience
16:32 Trends in Parenting Challenges
19:07 Engaging with Community Language
22:43 Understanding Rising Childhood Anxiety
25:43 Preparing Kids for the Real World
27:54 The Role of Repair in Parenting

Keywords:parenting, communication, childhood emotions, language impact, gentle parenting, childhood anxiety, emotional intelligence, parenting challenges, family dynamics, child psychology

Parents are spending billions of dollars and countless hours on their kids' sports activities. But have we stopped to consider spiritual growth and family life in the midst of all things sports? Ed Uszynski, sports coach, author, and parent, joins AllMomDoes host Julie Lyles Carr to unpack how to keep the holy in hockey, blessing in the basketball, and faith on the field.

Show Notes: https://bit.ly/4o7maiI 

Takeaways:
The youth sports landscape has dramatically changed over the years.
Parents often feel overwhelmed by the demands of youth sports.
The shift from play to performance has led to a more competitive environment.
Parental identity can become intertwined with children's performance.
The youth sports industry is a multi-billion dollar complex.
Many parents feel pressured to ensure their children succeed in sports.
Character development is as important as athletic performance.
Most kids quit sports by their teenage years due to pressure.
The lessons learned in sports can impact life beyond the field.
Parents should focus on their children's growth rather than just performance.
Discipleship in parenting is crucial for guiding children.
Character development should be prioritized over performance in sports.
Parents should expect more from youth sports experiences.
It's important to model faith and community involvement for children.
Coaches may not always have the best interests of families in mind.
Parents can and should make choices about their children's activities.
It's okay to leave a sports team if it's not a good fit.
Youth sports should be fun and not a source of stress.
Families should communicate and pray together about sports commitments.
There are resources available to help parents navigate youth sports.

Sound Bites:
"We need help."
"This is to enhance our kids' lives."
"Where do you think that comes from?"
"The clock is ticking."
"We should expect more for our dollar."
"I really am my child's primary discipler."
"You can fire the coach."

Chapters:
00:00 Introduction to the Youth Sports Landscape
02:54 The Shift from Play to Performance
06:48 Understanding the Youth Sports Industrial Complex
08:36 Parental Identity and Expectations
12:01 The Pressure of Performance and Its Consequences
16:39 Life Lessons Beyond the Field
19:45 Discipleship in Youth Sports
21:56 Balancing Passion and Priorities
25:13 Navigating Youth Sports Commitments
30:04 The Importance of Family Dynamics
33:48 Course Correction in Youth Sports
36:59 Resources for Parents in Youth Sports

Keywords:
youth sports, parenting, extracurricular activities, performance pressure, sports industry, parental expectations, youth sports culture, character development, sports parenting, sports ministry, youth sports, parenting, discipleship, character development, family dynamics, sports commitments, decision making, youth athletics, sports culture, faith and sports

Maybe it's not your compatibility; maybe it's your game plan...or lack thereof. Marriage coach Tondra Gregory joins AllMomDoes host Julie Lyles Carr to explore where marriages are struggling today and why you need a game plan to help you succeed in love.

Show Notes: https://bit.ly/48Pbsc3 

Takeaways:
Churches often lack dedicated marriage ministries.
Marriage is a key part of reflecting God's image.
Conflict resolution is a critical skill for couples.
Social media presents new challenges for trust in relationships.
Setting boundaries around technology is essential.
Couples need to adjust their roles as life changes.
Communication is vital for a successful marriage.
Using sports analogies can help men understand marital concepts.
Flexibility in marriage plans is necessary for success.
Resources and tools are available to help couples thrive.  

Sound bites:
"We need to talk about all of this."
"We need to adjust our game plan."
"We are always looking for more tools."    

Chapters:
00:00 The Importance of Marriage in Faith Communities
02:53 Conflict Resolution: A Timeless Challenge
05:57 Navigating Modern Relationships in the Digital Age
09:05 Balancing Responsibilities in Marriage
11:58 Using Sports Analogies to Enhance Communication
15:01 Resources for Strengthening Marriages  

Keywords: marriage, faith communities, conflict resolution, social media, relationship advice, communication, marriage ministry, modern challenges, responsibilities, sports analogies

She was the host of a popular parenting podcast and good church girl. So why did it make her have a panic attack? Heather MacFayden joins AllMomDoes host Julie Lyles Carr for an honest and vulnerable conversation about the one thing we're doing as moms that is working against us.

Show Notes: https://bit.ly/46RdzdN 

When you're used to working off of blueprints, production schedules, and closing dates, holding it all with an open hand and trusting God's timing can be tricky. Star of HGTV's Fixer to Fabulous Jenny Marrs joins AllMomDoes host Julie Lyles Carr for an insightful look into what it means to trust God when your personality and your profession is built on to-do lists and timelines.

Show Notes: https://bit.ly/46vGmV8 

Ever dream of moving out on some land, raising some chickens, and writing some romance novels? Melissa Ferguson, TikTok phenom and all-around fascinating person did just that! Check out how her faith guided her through making big changes in her life in this episode of the AllMomDoes podcast with Julie Lyles Carr.

Show Notes: https://bit.ly/46NQoQq 
takeaways

• Embracing a rural lifestyle can bring joy and fulfillment.
• Writing can be a flexible journey, adapting to life changes.
• Community plays a vital role in both writing and homesteading.
• Balancing homesteading with creative pursuits is achievable with smart systems.
• Children's books can be a rewarding and quicker writing process.
• It's important to be open to new opportunities in your creative journey.
• Homesteading can be customized to fit individual lifestyles and commitments.
• Investing in efficient systems can ease the demands of homesteading.
• Sharing family experiences through storytelling enriches both writing and parenting.
• The journey of writing is often filled with unexpected turns and opportunities.

Sound Bites

• "You know how to live."
• "You can always add more."
• "I love making bread."

Chapters00:00Embracing a Rural Lifestyle
09:30The Journey to Homesteading
20:54Writing and Community in a Homesteading Life
24:06Creating a Children's Book

Do you sometimes think you should have been named something else? Spoken poet and author Hosanna Wong joins AllMomDoes host Julie Lyles Carr for an insightful look at the names we give ourselves contrasted with what God calls us.

Show Notes: https://bit.ly/3VmhyZj