All Mom Does Podcast with Julie Lyles Carr

It would be great if our kids were naturally buddies, if there were never times of conflict, bullying, and general unlikability. But that's not real life. AllMomDoes host Julie Lyles Carr tackles your question about how to help our kids (and ourselves) with our sibling relationships.

Show Notes: https://bit.ly/4adZYiQ

Takeaways:

• Sibling relationships are foundational to family dynamics.
• Fairness in parenting can shape sibling relationships positively.
• Teaching conflict resolution is crucial for healthy sibling interactions.
• Adult sibling relationships can be complicated and require clear communication.
• Repairing relationships after conflict is essential for long-term harmony.
• Modeling healthy relationships helps children navigate their own.
• Acknowledging unfair situations can reduce resentment among siblings.
• Parents should avoid favoritism to maintain sibling bonds.
• Encouraging independence in sibling relationships fosters stronger connections.
• Seeking professional help can provide tools for managing difficult sibling dynamics.

Sound Bites:

• "That's so weird. Other moms I know don't do things like that."
• "I would love to talk about this whole topic of sibling rivalry."
• "Siblings are all over the Bible, and I don't think it's any mistake."
• "I want to encourage you to think about the wrapped Christmas batteries."
• "There is conflict that is appropriate."
• "Repairing relationships is essential for long-term harmony."
• "Be clear, put it in writing."
• "We want things to be as fair as possible."

Chapters:
00:00 - The Foundation of Sibling Relationships
07:07 - Fairness in Parenting
11:30 - Conflict Resolution and Communication
19:34 - Navigating Adult Sibling Relationships
30:00 - The Importance of Repairing Relationships

Keywords:
sibling relationships, parenting, conflict resolution, family dynamics, fairness, communication, adult siblings, family therapy, sibling rivalry, childhood development

It's not just in your head. Anxiety impacts your body, your energy levels, your focus, your outlook, and your spiritual life. Becky Keife is our guest on the AllMomDoes podcast, and she and host Julie Lyles Carr dig into the ways that anxiety impacts our lives as women, and how we can use God's word and His wisdom for moving our bodies, prayer, and more to combat the effects of anxiety in our lives.

Show Notes: https://bit.ly/4rM9sIn 

Takeaways

• Anxiety is a common struggle for many women today.
• The access to information can heighten feelings of anxiety.
• Understanding the difference between common stress and clinical anxiety is crucial.
• Self-compassion is essential when dealing with anxiety.
• Hormonal changes can significantly impact anxiety levels in women.
• Communication about anxiety in relationships can be challenging.
• Recognizing triggers is key to managing anxiety effectively.
• Practical steps, like journaling and breath exercises, can help alleviate anxiety.
• Asking God for guidance can provide clarity and peace.
• Becky's new book offers practical tools for managing anxiety.

Sound Bites

• "The access to information can heighten anxiety."
• "Practical steps can help alleviate anxiety."
• "Asking God for guidance can provide clarity."

Chapters00:00 Introduction to the All Mom Does Podcast
00:48 Meet Becky Keife: Ministering to Women
01:31 The Role of Anxiety in Modern Life
04:42 Understanding Modern Anxiety Among Women
07:23 Defining Anxiety: Symptoms and Signals
09:41 When Anxiety Becomes Debilitating
11:30 Self-Compassion and Seeking Help
12:59 Hormonal Influences on Anxiety
14:54 Anxiety in Marriage: Communication Challenges
19:23 Understanding Triggers: The Lemon Bar Analogy
23:43 The Gift and Burden of Anxiety
25:34 Moving Beyond Naming Anxiety
29:30 Practical Steps to Manage Anxiety
30:38 Introducing A Versa Day for the Anxious Soul
34:01 Conclusion and Resources

Keywords
anxiety, mental health, women, motherhood, self-compassion, spiritual growth, emotional wellness, Becky Keife, All Mom Does, podcast

Prepare your heart for Christmas by walking through the Gospel of Luke — one chapter each day. We're already a few days in, but it isn't too late to join us on this journey... We're giving you the gift of the first episode to give you a little taste of what's to come. If you'd like to continue the journey, find and follow our "Luke: A 24-Day Journey to Christmas" podcast mini-series on Purposely.com or wherever you get your podcasts.

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Listener note: This episode might be a good one to pop on those headphones or earbuds if you have little ears nearby. Part of our conversation includes a suicide and a cancer diagnosis.

She's known for her laughter, wit, and upbeat outlook on life. But the last five years have taken a toll on Scarlet Hiltibidal and she's ready to talk about it. Scarlet joins AllMomDoes podcast host Julie Lyles Carr for a vulnerable conversation about what it takes to face life challenges with honesty while still remaining hopeful-ish.

Show Notes: https://bit.ly/48wWPYS 

Takeaways:

• Scarlet is a mom of four, navigating chaos and change.
• Her new book 'Hopeful-ish' addresses personal pain and hope.
• The title was inspired by her husband's suggestion to lighten it up.
• Scarlet's writing process is influenced by her interactions with women facing similar struggles.
• Post-COVID, many are wrestling with feelings of sadness and despair.
• The importance of tending to one's faith like a farm is emphasized.
• Humor can coexist with deeper emotional struggles.
• Scarlet shares a poignant story about a donut and a young girl that brought her hope.
• Being open with children about faith and struggles is crucial.
• Hope is a gift from the Holy Spirit, not something we can manufacture.

Sound Bites:

• "I want people to read it."
• "I was not running to God."
• "Don't fake your faith!"

Chapters:
00:00 Introduction and Personal Updates
02:51 The Creative Process Behind 'Hopeful-ish'
05:31 Processing Grief and Loss Post-COVID
08:48 Wrestling with Hope and Personal Struggles
11:34 Balancing Humor and Heaviness in Life
14:16 The Donkey Attack and Farming Adventures
17:13 The Journey of Becoming a Farmer
19:08 Tending to the Farm of Your Soul
21:13 Navigating Jadedness and Hope
23:04 The Gift of Hope in Difficult Times
28:43 Parenting Through Faith and Challenges

 

Keywords: Scarlet Hiltibidal, Hopeful-ish, grief, faith, motherhood, creativity, COVID-19, personal growth, humor, parenting

What did Julie do when her daughter grabbed a tweezer to pluck the chin hair of Grammie during Thanksgiving? Sometimes there is no contingency plan when things happen that you don't expect.

Show Notes: https://bit.ly/44oO9m5 

With holiday hosting just around the corner, queen of hospitality Abby Kuykendall is the perfect person to help get you in the right frame of mind! Abby joins AllMomDoes podcast host Julie Lyles Carr to discuss what true hospitality is all about, and how to let go of stress, expectations, and perfection so you can focus on your people instead!

Show Notes: https://bit.ly/3K9KQbz

Takeaways:
Hospitality connects people and is a way to show love.
It's important to redefine hospitality beyond entertaining.
Cultural pressures can hinder our ability to practice hospitality.
Setting boundaries is essential for healthy hospitality.
Authenticity in hospitality leads to deeper connections.
Women often bear the mental load of hospitality tasks.
Introverts and extroverts experience hospitality differently.
Throwing off expectations can enhance the hospitality experience.
God calls us to practice hospitality regardless of our skills.
The journey of hospitality is about being true to oneself. I'm not carrying that torch alone.
We have to look at our calendars.
Set that up at the beginning.
Take the stress off of yourself.
Potluck it up, man.
A coffee meetup in the front yard.
Opening our resources to be hospitable.
Using your resources to build those connections.
We can distract ourselves away from what the point is.
I want to focus on and he's like, Oh, if it was dirty.

Sound bites:
"It's not about trying to be Martha Stewart"
"I'm not carrying that torch alone."
"We have to look at our calendars."
"Set that up at the beginning."
"Take the stress off of yourself."
"Potluck it up, man."
"A coffee meetup in the front yard."
"Opening our resources to be hospitable."

Chapters:
00:00 Introduction to Hospitality and Connection
01:53 Redefining Hospitality: From Entertaining to Authenticity
04:58 Cultural Pressures and Expectations in Hospitality
10:06 Overcoming Anxiety and Setting Boundaries in Hospitality
18:51 Navigating Different Personalities in Hospitality
21:56 Navigating Hospitality with Family Dynamics
22:47 Planning and Preparation for Hospitality
24:56 The Power of Potlucks and Delegation
26:55 Innovative Approaches to Hosting
27:53 Hospitality Beyond the Home
29:38 Building Relationships Through Shared Experiences
31:33 Creating Presence Over Perfection
33:23 Teamwork in Hospitality
35:57 Setting Expectations in Co-Hosting
37:33 Connecting with the Audience

Keywords:
hospitality, connection, authenticity, cultural pressures, boundaries, introverts, extroverts, community, anxiety, expectations, hospitality, family dynamics, planning, potluck, hosting, relationships, presence, teamwork, expectations, community

In elevating opportunities and understanding for girls, there's a group that's gotten left behind; boys. With fewer male college admissions, longer days sitting at desks in the classroom, and a generation who has substituted real adventure and challenge for video games, it's no wonder parents are trying to figure out how to best raise their sons. Author and boy mom Rebekah Lovell joins Julie Lyles Carr on the AllMomDoes podcast to share how she's maximizing work and play for her boys to prepare them for their lives as men.

Show Notes: https://bit.ly/3WLGdHs 

Takeaways:
Raising boys involves understanding their unique wiring and energy.
Boys often express themselves through physical activity and exploration.
It's essential to balance nurturing with allowing boys to take risks.
Boys need to learn emotional regulation and resilience.
Mentorship plays a crucial role in a boy's development.
Boys thrive when they feel challenged and capable.
Encouraging boys to take on responsibilities fosters independence.
Boys can learn valuable lessons from hero stories and role models.
It's important to celebrate masculinity without diminishing femininity.
Creating a supportive environment helps boys navigate societal pressures.

Sound bites:
"We want boys who launch."
"Boys need to know they measure up."
"Boys need to know they can try again."
"We want good men who will lead."
"Boys need mentors to guide them."
"Boys are hero worshippers."

Chapters:
00:00 Navigating Boy World
04:31 Understanding Boys' Nature and Nurture
10:39 Emotional Landscapes of Boys
13:54 Raising Resilient Sons
19:07 Challenging Passivity in Boys
30:06 Finding Male Mentors for Boys

Keywords:
raising boys, boyhood, parenting, emotional intelligence, masculinity, boys' nature, nurturing boys, resilience, mentorship, family dynamics

What should you be saying to your kids? In a time of gentle parenting, the come back of authoritative styles and more, it can be confusing to know how to talk to your kids and how to correct them. Amy Hughes joins Julie Lyles Carr on this episode of the AllMomDoes podcast to unpack what's up with parent speak.

Show Notes: https://bit.ly/47gtJO3 

Takeaways:
Writing is often a reflection of what we need to hear ourselves.
Gentle parenting is a response to authoritarian styles of parenting.
Language choices can significantly impact a child's emotional health.
Phrases like 'don't be sad' can shame children for their feelings.
Encouraging children to express emotions is crucial for their development.
The balance between authority and gentleness is a common struggle for parents.
Children need to learn how to navigate different communication styles.
Role-playing can help prepare children for real-world interactions.
Awareness of harmful phrases can lead to better communication.
Parenting is a journey of learning and growth for both parents and children.

Sound bites:
"This needs to be its own book."
"Don't be sad is shaming."
"Hurry up can cause anxiety."

Chapters:00:00 
Introduction to Parenting Dynamics
02:51 The Importance of Language in Parenting
05:53 Navigating Emotional Expression
10:00 Replacing Harmful Phrases
12:07 Building Emotional Resilience
16:32 Trends in Parenting Challenges
19:07 Engaging with Community Language
22:43 Understanding Rising Childhood Anxiety
25:43 Preparing Kids for the Real World
27:54 The Role of Repair in Parenting

Keywords:parenting, communication, childhood emotions, language impact, gentle parenting, childhood anxiety, emotional intelligence, parenting challenges, family dynamics, child psychology

Parents are spending billions of dollars and countless hours on their kids' sports activities. But have we stopped to consider spiritual growth and family life in the midst of all things sports? Ed Uszynski, sports coach, author, and parent, joins AllMomDoes host Julie Lyles Carr to unpack how to keep the holy in hockey, blessing in the basketball, and faith on the field.

Show Notes: https://bit.ly/4o7maiI 

Takeaways:
The youth sports landscape has dramatically changed over the years.
Parents often feel overwhelmed by the demands of youth sports.
The shift from play to performance has led to a more competitive environment.
Parental identity can become intertwined with children's performance.
The youth sports industry is a multi-billion dollar complex.
Many parents feel pressured to ensure their children succeed in sports.
Character development is as important as athletic performance.
Most kids quit sports by their teenage years due to pressure.
The lessons learned in sports can impact life beyond the field.
Parents should focus on their children's growth rather than just performance.
Discipleship in parenting is crucial for guiding children.
Character development should be prioritized over performance in sports.
Parents should expect more from youth sports experiences.
It's important to model faith and community involvement for children.
Coaches may not always have the best interests of families in mind.
Parents can and should make choices about their children's activities.
It's okay to leave a sports team if it's not a good fit.
Youth sports should be fun and not a source of stress.
Families should communicate and pray together about sports commitments.
There are resources available to help parents navigate youth sports.

Sound Bites:
"We need help."
"This is to enhance our kids' lives."
"Where do you think that comes from?"
"The clock is ticking."
"We should expect more for our dollar."
"I really am my child's primary discipler."
"You can fire the coach."

Chapters:
00:00 Introduction to the Youth Sports Landscape
02:54 The Shift from Play to Performance
06:48 Understanding the Youth Sports Industrial Complex
08:36 Parental Identity and Expectations
12:01 The Pressure of Performance and Its Consequences
16:39 Life Lessons Beyond the Field
19:45 Discipleship in Youth Sports
21:56 Balancing Passion and Priorities
25:13 Navigating Youth Sports Commitments
30:04 The Importance of Family Dynamics
33:48 Course Correction in Youth Sports
36:59 Resources for Parents in Youth Sports

Keywords:
youth sports, parenting, extracurricular activities, performance pressure, sports industry, parental expectations, youth sports culture, character development, sports parenting, sports ministry, youth sports, parenting, discipleship, character development, family dynamics, sports commitments, decision making, youth athletics, sports culture, faith and sports