Mentally Flexible

Mentally Flexible, hosted by Tom Parkes.

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A Conversation with Ralph De La Rosa - Shared in Loving Memory

A Conversation with Ralph De La Rosa - Shared in Loving Memory

Today’s episode features Ralph De La Rosa. Ralph was the author of three books, including Outshining Trauma: A New Vision of Radical Compassion (foreword by Richard Schwartz). He was a psychotherapist in private practice and a longtime meditation teacher known for his radically honest and humorous approach. His work was featured in GQ, CNN, NY Post, Tricycle, Mindful Magazine, and beyond.


Perhaps most crucial is that Ralph walked the path of outshining trauma alongside the people he worked with. He was a survivor of PTSD, heroin addiction, Borderline Personality Disorder, ADHD, and liver failure. Walking through these matters with the help of profound therapists and mentors became an empowerment no school could have offered. It was simply part of his path to offer back what he had been shown.


Ralph mentored personally with Richard Schwartz, founder of the Internal Family Systems model of psychotherapy, known for its efficacy in healing trauma. He also completed an invite-only advanced teacher training with Jack Kornfield.


He began practicing meditation in 1996 and trained in a spectrum of yogic and healing traditions, including devotional Hinduism and Tibetan Buddhism. Ralph began teaching Buddhist-inspired meditation in 2008. He identified as a practitioner and teacher of human spirituality, offering a highly specialized hybrid of IFS and Buddhism to guide students on a direct path of conscious evolution and self-discovery.


As a therapist, Ralph was a summa cum laude graduate of Fordham University. He spent his earliest days working in NYC’s clinical foster care system where he trained in multiple modalities of trauma-focused therapy. He maintained a small roster of therapy clients for the love of witnessing transformation up close.


Ralph was also an intersectional activist, musician, wannabe acrobat, and outdoor enthusiast, who made his home in Seattle, WA. His teachings and writings continue to inspire and support people navigating trauma and transformation.


Some of the topics we covered in this episode include:


  • A beginning guided meditation
  • What drew Ralph to IFS
  • Overlaps with ACT and IFS
  • The value of living with an open heart
  • And Ralph guides me through some experiential IFS work


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Outshining Trauma: https://a.co/d/cQ8kREn

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Check out my song “Glimpse at Truth” that you hear in the intro/outro of every episode: https://tomparkes.bandcamp.com/track/glimpse-at-truth


Check out my new album, Holding Space! https://open.spotify.com/album/0iOcjZQhmAhYtjjq3CTpwQ?si=nemiLnELTsGGExjfy8B6iw

Rikke Kjelgaard | Vulnerability, Scars, and Bringing ACT Into Life

Rikke Kjelgaard | Vulnerability, Scars, and Bringing ACT Into Life

My guest today is Rikke Kjelgaard. Rikke is a licensed psychologist, peer-reviewed ACT trainer, and author. Rikke is on a mission to help therapists thrive and to be brave and authentic helpers. Trained as a clinical psychologist, she has a 15 year background in the science of human behavior and the practice of behavior change. Rikke is a popular speaker internationally, and she is known to bring both passion and vulnerability to her talks. She transforms the lives of her audience by bringing evidence based strategies to her listeners in ways that are accessible and impactful.


Some of the topics we explore in this episode include:

- Rikke’s background being on stage and how that informs her training style

- Her early experiences being trained by the ACT founders

- The difference between wounds and scars regarding self disclosure

- Cultivating willingness to sit in the darkness with others

- Bringing ACT skills beyond the therapy room and into our personal relationships

- And we discuss topics like, self-forgiveness, people pleasing, and being truly helpful 


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Rikke’s website: https://www.rikkekjelgaard.com

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Thank you all for checking out the episode! Here are some ways to help support Mentally Flexible:


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Check out my song “Glimpse at Truth” that you hear in the intro/outro of every episode: https://tomparkes.bandcamp.com/track/glimpse-at-truth


Check out my new album, Holding Space! https://open.spotify.com/album/0iOcjZQhmAhYtjjq3CTpwQ?si=nemiLnELTsGGExjfy8B6iw

Jessica Borushok, PhD | The ACT Therapist

Jessica Borushok, PhD | The ACT Therapist

My guest today is Dr. Jessica Borushok, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist in private practice specializing in anxiety disorders and health-related concerns, including insomnia, chronic pain, and coping with chronic medical conditions. In addition to clinical work, Dr. Borushok provides acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) training and consultation to other mental health professionals. Dr. Borushok is the co-author of numerous books, including her most recent, The Complete Guide to Acceptance & Commitment Therapy: An Interactive Skills Manual for Clinicians to Learn and Practice ACT. In an effort to bring evidence-based resources to the public, Jessica also runs a Youtube channel called The ACT Therapist.


Some of the topics we explore in this episode include:

  • What led Jessica into the psychology field
  • How she found her authentic voice and style within ACT
  • Creative and flexible ways of training others in ACT
  • Jessica’s new book
  • And trusting ourselves to take risks in session 


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Jessica’s website: https://www.theacttherapist.com/

The Complete Guide to ACT: https://a.co/d/aJTFqHXh


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Thank you all for checking out the episode! Here are some ways to help support Mentally Flexible:


Sign up for PsychFlex through the Mentally Flexible link! PsychFlex.com/MentallyFlexible


You can help cover some of the costs of running the podcast by donating a cup of coffee! www.buymeacoffee.com/mentallyflexible


Please subscribe and leave a review on Apple Podcasts. It only takes 30 seconds and plays an important role in being able to get new guests.https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mentally-flexible/id1539933988


Follow the show on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mentallyflexible/


Check out my song “Glimpse at Truth” that you hear in the intro/outro of every episode: https://tomparkes.bandcamp.com/track/glimpse-at-truth


Check out my new album, Holding Space! https://open.spotify.com/album/0iOcjZQhmAhYtjjq3CTpwQ?si=nemiLnELTsGGExjfy8B6iw

Dr. Robyn Walser | Presence and Authenticity in the Therapy Room

Dr. Robyn Walser | Presence and Authenticity in the Therapy Room

My guest today is Dr. Robyn Walser. Robyn is a clinical psychologist, educator, and author of several influential books on ACT for professionals and general readers. She is Assistant Clinical Professor at the University of California, Berkeley, and Director of Research at Bay Area Trauma Recovery Clinical Services. She is also on the staff of the National Center for PTSD at the VA Palo Alto Health Care System. Internationally known for her compassionate, client-centered approach, Dr. Walser has been working in the field of trauma and conducting the ACT training internationally since the 1990s.


Some of the topics we explore in this episode include:

  • The here and now unfolding of ACT in the therapy room
  • How Robyn pays attention to function throughout a session
  • Undermining therapist “rules”
  • The potential downsides of bringing AI into the therapy process
  • We discuss Robyn’s new book You Are Not Your Trauma
  • Creative ways Robyn helps therapists cultivate their practice

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Robyn’s Website: https://robynwalser.com/


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Thank you all for checking out the episode! Here are some ways to help support Mentally Flexible:


Sign up for PsychFlex through the Mentally Flexible link! PsychFlex.com/MentallyFlexible


You can help cover some of the costs of running the podcast by donating a cup of coffee! www.buymeacoffee.com/mentallyflexible


Please subscribe and leave a review on Apple Podcasts. It only takes 30 seconds and plays an important role in being able to get new guests.https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mentally-flexible/id1539933988


Follow the show on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mentallyflexible/


Check out my song “Glimpse at Truth” that you hear in the intro/outro of every episode: https://tomparkes.bandcamp.com/track/glimpse-at-truth


Check out my new album, Holding Space! https://open.spotify.com/album/0iOcjZQhmAhYtjjq3CTpwQ?si=nemiLnELTsGGExjfy8B6iw

Noelle McWard Aquino, LCSW | Anxiety Unpacked

Noelle McWard Aquino, LCSW | Anxiety Unpacked

My guest today is Noelle McWard Aquino. Noelle is a Chicago-based therapist who specializes in the treatment of anxiety disorders. She is the author of Anxiety Unpacked: Discover Your Type and Recover Your Peace, a bestselling book that helps readers identify and work with the specific patterns driving their anxiety. Her work has been featured in publications including Psychology Today and Psychotherapy Networker. Noelle speaks regularly to both clinical and general audiences, training therapists in her framework for understanding anxiety and helping individuals develop more effective, compassionate responses to it.  


Some of the topics we explore in this episode include:

- How Noelle’s relationship with her son helped inform her new book

- The biological processes involved in anxiety

- The difference between anxiety and intuition

- Recurring root patterns of anxiety

- The role of values when navigating anxiety challenges

- The pitfalls of control and unhelpful beliefs

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Noelle’s Website: https://noellemcwardaquino.com/

Anxiety Unpacked: https://a.co/d/dJ41mEK


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Thank you all for checking out the episode! Here are some ways to help support Mentally Flexible:


Sign up for PsychFlex through the Mentally Flexible link! PsychFlex.com/MentallyFlexible


You can help cover some of the costs of running the podcast by donating a cup of coffee! www.buymeacoffee.com/mentallyflexible


Please subscribe and leave a review on Apple Podcasts. It only takes 30 seconds and plays an important role in being able to get new guests.https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mentally-flexible/id1539933988


Follow the show on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mentallyflexible/


Check out my song “Glimpse at Truth” that you hear in the intro/outro of every episode: https://tomparkes.bandcamp.com/track/glimpse-at-truth


Check out my new album, Holding Space! https://open.spotify.com/album/0iOcjZQhmAhYtjjq3CTpwQ?si=nemiLnELTsGGExjfy8B6iw

Alissa Jerud, PhD | Emotion-Savvy Parenting

Alissa Jerud, PhD | Emotion-Savvy Parenting

My guest today is Alissa Jerud, PhD. Alissa is a licensed clinical psychologist working in private practice and a clinical assistant professor at the University of Pennsylvania. In her private practice, Dr. Jerud specializes in exposure-based treatment of anxiety-related disorders and Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) skills training. She particularly enjoys helping other parents learn to accept, regulate, and tolerate their emotions, as well as their children's. Alissa is the author of a new book, Emotion-Savvy Parenting: A Shame-Free Guide to Navigating Emotional Storms and Deepening Connection.


Some of the topics we explore in this episode include:

  • What led Alissa into the field of psychology 
  • The inspiration for her new book, Emotion-Savvy Parenting
  • Science-backed strategies for dealing with difficult emotions
  • A deeper dive on the skills of accepting, regulating, and tolerating 
  • How attempts to control our children can backfire 
  • The role of personal vulnerabilities in activating emotions
  • And we explore the different ingredients that go into our emotional experience


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Thank you all for checking out the episode! Here are some ways to help support Mentally Flexible:


Sign up for PsychFlex through the Mentally Flexible link! PsychFlex.com/MentallyFlexible


You can help cover some of the costs of running the podcast by donating a cup of coffee! www.buymeacoffee.com/mentallyflexible


Please subscribe and leave a review on Apple Podcasts. It only takes 30 seconds and plays an important role in being able to get new guests.https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mentally-flexible/id1539933988


Follow the show on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mentallyflexible/


Check out my song “Glimpse at Truth” that you hear in the intro/outro of every episode: https://tomparkes.bandcamp.com/track/glimpse-at-truth


Check out my new album, Holding Space! https://open.spotify.com/album/0iOcjZQhmAhYtjjq3CTpwQ?si=nemiLnELTsGGExjfy8B6iw


Holly Yates, LCMHC | Functional Analytic Psychotherapy (FAP)

Holly Yates, LCMHC | Functional Analytic Psychotherapy (FAP)

My guest today is Holly Yates, LCMHC. Holly has been in private practice in North Carolina since 2004. Her specialty areas are working with adults both individually and in groups as well as couples addressing depression, anxiety, mood disorders and life stressors through clinical intervention and skills training. Holly's practice centers on third wave therapies most specifically Functional Analytic Psychotherapy (FAP) and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). She is a founding facilitator of the online ACT Peer Intervision Network sponsored through ACBS and a Certified FAP Trainer through University of Washington. Holly presents FAP and ACT workshops locally and around the world. Holly is Co-founder of North Wake Counseling Partners in Raleigh NC.


Some of the topics we explore in this episode include:

- Holly’s background with ACT and how it led to learning about FAP

- The importance of the therapeutic relationship

- Clinically relevant behaviors for connection building in the therapy room

- The importance of encouraging authentic relationships outside of therapy

- The courage and vulnerability involved in intentional self-disclosure

- How ACT and FAP naturally blend together


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Thank you all for checking out the episode! Here are some ways to help support Mentally Flexible:


Sign up for PsychFlex through the Mentally Flexible link! PsychFlex.com/MentallyFlexible


You can help cover some of the costs of running the podcast by donating a cup of coffee! www.buymeacoffee.com/mentallyflexible


Please subscribe and leave a review on Apple Podcasts. It only takes 30 seconds and plays an important role in being able to get new guests.https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mentally-flexible/id1539933988


Follow the show on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mentallyflexible/


Check out my song “Glimpse at Truth” that you hear in the intro/outro of every episode: https://tomparkes.bandcamp.com/track/glimpse-at-truth


Check out my new album, Holding Space! https://open.spotify.com/album/0iOcjZQhmAhYtjjq3CTpwQ?si=nemiLnELTsGGExjfy8B6iw

Dr. Joe Oliver | ACTivate Your Life

Dr. Joe Oliver | ACTivate Your Life

My guest today is Dr. Joe Oliver. Joe is a consultant clinical psychologist, author, and the founder of Contextual Consulting, a leading international training provider that has trained over 60,000 practitioners in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). He also serves as an associate professor and the programme director for the University College London’s postgraduate programme in CBT for Severe Mental Health Problems. Joe is an active member of the Association of Contextual Behavioral Science (ACBS) and a peer-reviewed ACT trainer 

He is also the author of six ACT books, including Acceptance and Commitment Therapy & Mindfulness for Psychosis and most recently, ACTivate Your Life. His extensive contributions to the field also include several textbooks, such as Acceptance and Commitment Coaching, ACT: 100 Key Points and Techniques, and The Mindfulness and Acceptance Workbook for Self-Esteem.


Some of the topics we explore in this episode include:

- How ACT first came into Joe’s life

- His work on using ACT to support psychosis 

- Fusion to aspects of the self and identity

- Relational frame theory and its early influences in childhood development

- And Joe’s new book, ACTivate Your Life

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Contextual Consulting: https://contextualconsulting.co.uk/

ACTivate Your Life: https://contextualconsulting.co.uk/resources/activate-your-life

Joe’s Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXyoggevWPfFjvhbYlM3x8A


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Thank you all for checking out the episode! Here are some ways to help support Mentally Flexible:


Sign up for PsychFlex through the Mentally Flexible link! PsychFlex.com/MentallyFlexible


You can help cover some of the costs of running the podcast by donating a cup of coffee! www.buymeacoffee.com/mentallyflexible


Please subscribe and leave a review on Apple Podcasts. It only takes 30 seconds and plays an important role in being able to get new guests.https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mentally-flexible/id1539933988


Follow the show on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mentallyflexible/


Check out my song “Glimpse at Truth” that you hear in the intro/outro of every episode: https://tomparkes.bandcamp.com/track/glimpse-at-truth


Check out my new album, Holding Space! https://open.spotify.com/album/0iOcjZQhmAhYtjjq3CTpwQ?si=nemiLnELTsGGExjfy8B6iw

Pepper Stetler | One Mother’s Reckoning with the IQ Test

Pepper Stetler | One Mother’s Reckoning with the IQ Test

My guest today is Pepper Stetler. Pepper is the author of A Measure of Intelligence: One Mother’s Reckoning with the IQ Test, which we discuss in this episode. She is also a professor of art history at Miami University in Oxford, Ohio. She has written extensively on issues facing people with intellectual disabilities and their caregivers, in publications such as The New York Times, The Atlantic, and Slate. She lives in Oxford, Ohio.


Some of the topics we explore in this episode include:

  • What inspired Pepper to write this book
  • What Pepper learned through having a daughter with Down’s Syndrome
  • Unhelpful assumptions about learning and intelligence
  • The history of IQ testing
  • The relative recency of the concept “normal”
  • Pepper’s vision for change

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Pepper’s Website: https://www.pepperstetler.com/

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Thank you all for checking out the episode! Here are some ways to help support Mentally Flexible:


Sign up for PsychFlex through the Mentally Flexible link! PsychFlex.com/MentallyFlexible


You can help cover some of the costs of running the podcast by donating a cup of coffee! www.buymeacoffee.com/mentallyflexible


Please subscribe and leave a review on Apple Podcasts. It only takes 30 seconds and plays an important role in being able to get new guests.https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mentally-flexible/id1539933988


Follow the show on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mentallyflexible/


Check out my song “Glimpse at Truth” that you hear in the intro/outro of every episode: https://tomparkes.bandcamp.com/track/glimpse-at-truth


Check out my new album, Holding Space! https://open.spotify.com/album/0iOcjZQhmAhYtjjq3CTpwQ?si=nemiLnELTsGGExjfy8B6iw

Bio of Mentally Flexible

Mentally Flexible, hosted by Tom Parkes, is a podcast that delves into the realms of psychology, mental health, and creativity to help listeners develop mental flexibility. With an open-minded and curious approach, Tom engages in meaningful conversations that aim to provide insights and understanding of oneself, others, and the world.

As a psychotherapist, Tom brings his expertise and knowledge to each episode, exploring various topics related to psychology and mental health. The podcast encourages listeners to adopt a flexible mindset, allowing for growth, adaptability, and a deeper understanding of the complexities of the human mind.

The conversations on Mentally Flexible cover a wide range of subjects, offering valuable insights and practical tools for personal development.

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