Mentally Flexible

Mentally Flexible, hosted by Tom Parkes.

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Dr. Emily Edlynn | Parenting with Nuance, Flexibility, and Compassion

Dr. Emily Edlynn | Parenting with Nuance, Flexibility, and Compassion

My guest today is Dr. Emily Edlynn. Emily is a licensed clinical psychologist specializing in pediatric health psychology who works in private practice with children, teens, and adults. Emily spent almost ten years working in children’s hospitals before pivoting to private practice, which allowed her to start a writing career. Emily’s writing has appeared in the Washington Post, Parents, Scary Mommy, Good Housekeeping, Motherly, Psychology Today, and more. Her first book, Autonomy-Supportive Parenting: Reduce Parental Burnout and Raise Competent Confident Children earned an Indies Foreword award for a best book in 2023. She also writes about modern parenting in her Substack newsletter and co-hosts the popular Psychologists Off the Clock podcast. 


Some of the topics we explore in this episode include:

- Emily’s reflections on first becoming a parent 

- How misguided parenting advice inspired Emily’s writing

- The importance of the repair process in relationships

- The trap of overcorrecting from our childhood experiences

- The value of being authentic as a parent

- Autonomy-supportive parenting vs controlling parenting

- And tapping into a child’s intrinsic motivation 


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Dr. Edlynn’s website: https://www.emilyedlynnphd.com/

Autonomy Supportive Parenting: https://a.co/d/ja3ahmq

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Check out my song “Glimpse at Truth” that you hear in the intro/outro of every episode: https://tomparkes.bandcamp.com/track/glimpse-at-truth


Check out my new album, Holding Space! https://open.spotify.com/album/0iOcjZQhmAhYtjjq3CTpwQ?si=nemiLnELTsGGExjfy8B6iw

Trevor Jones | Bringing the Heart of ACT into Performance

Trevor Jones | Bringing the Heart of ACT into Performance

My guest today is Trevor Jones. Trevor is a Mental Performance Coach with the Aware Performance Group and has spent the last nine years studying and training in ACT and its underlying theories. A former professional golfer, he won a national championship and competed on the European Tour.

Now, he works with high-performance clients across various domains, including golf, water polo, baseball, and stock market investing. He is currently co-authoring a book with sports psychiatrist Jorge Aguilar, MD, on one of sports’ biggest performance barriers—the yips—set for publication later this year.

Trevor lives in the UK with his two sons and two dogs, where they enjoy climbing a mountain or three.


Some of the topics we explore in this episode include:

  • Trevor’s background with performance and ACT
  • “Socially Transmitted Dogmas” in sports
  • The “6 Breaths” experiential exercise
  • The Yips
  • Self as context 
  • And The connection between pain and values


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Aware Performance Group: https://www.awareperformancegroup.com/

Trevor’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/trevorjones_aware/

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Thank you all for checking out the episode! Here are some ways to help support Mentally Flexible:


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Check out my song “Glimpse at Truth” that you hear in the intro/outro of every episode: https://tomparkes.bandcamp.com/track/glimpse-at-truth


Check out my new album, Holding Space! https://open.spotify.com/album/0iOcjZQhmAhYtjjq3CTpwQ?si=nemiLnELTsGGExjfy8B6iw

Lou Lasprugato, MFT | Yearnings and Vulnerabilities in Relationships

Lou Lasprugato, MFT | Yearnings and Vulnerabilities in Relationships

My guest today is Lou Lasprugato, MFT. Lou is an internationally recognized trainer and behavioral health provider. He’s a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, with private practices in both California and Virginia (United States), and Peer-Reviewed Trainer in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) with the Association for Contextual Behavioral Science, for which he also serves as chair of the Training Committee. Lou has taught mindfulness meditation to health care practitioners and facilitated dozens of training events on ACT and Relational Frame Theory (RFT), as well as co-created courses on nutritional psychology and integrative mental health. 


Some of the topics we explore in this episode include:

  • Reflections on parenting
  • Lou’s clinical background and how he first discovered ACT
  • How Lou uniquely applies ACT within couples work
  • Core yearnings and vulnerabilities in intimate relationships
  • How these apply to the therapeutic relationship
  • And balancing the content and process levels in a therapy session


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Lou’s website: https://www.loulasprugato.com/

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Thank you all for checking out the episode! Here are some ways to help support Mentally Flexible:


Sign up for PsychFlex through the Mentally Flexible link! PsychFlex.com/MentallyFlexible


You can help cover some of the costs of running the podcast by donating a cup of coffee! www.buymeacoffee.com/mentallyflexible


Please subscribe and leave a review on Apple Podcasts. It only takes 30 seconds and plays an important role in being able to get new guests.https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mentally-flexible/id1539933988


Follow the show on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mentallyflexible/


Check out my song “Glimpse at Truth” that you hear in the intro/outro of every episode: https://tomparkes.bandcamp.com/track/glimpse-at-truth


Check out my new album, Holding Space! https://open.spotify.com/album/0iOcjZQhmAhYtjjq3CTpwQ?si=nemiLnELTsGGExjfy8B6iw

Dr. Russ Harris | ACT: Misconceptions & Innovations

Dr. Russ Harris | ACT: Misconceptions & Innovations

My guest today is Dr. Russ Harris. Russ is a world-renowned trainer of Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (ACT) and author of the international best-selling self-help book The Happiness Trap

Since 2005, Russ has run over 700 two-day workshops and provided ACT training for almost 50,000 health professionals. He has authored four ACT textbooks (ACT Made Simple, Trauma Focused ACT, Getting Unstuck in ACT, ACT Questions & Answers), and four ACT-based self-help books (The Happiness Trap, The Reality Slap, The Confidence Gap and ACT with Love). His best-known book, The Happiness Trap, has sold over one million copies worldwide, with translations into more than 30 languages.

Some of the topics we explore in this episode include:
- Perfectionism and productive procrastination
- How the Hexaflex can potentially create unhelpful limitations in ACT
- Broadening acceptance and defusion into emotional and cognitive flexibility 
- How all of the “B” in CBT fits nicely into ACT
- “Flexible selfing” as an alternative to self-as-context 
- ACT supervision
- And misunderstanding the difference between thoughts and thinking

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Russ’s website: https://www.actmindfully.com.au/

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Thank you all for checking out the episode! Here are some ways to help support Mentally Flexible:


Sign up for PsychFlex through the Mentally Flexible link! PsychFlex.com/MentallyFlexible


You can help cover some of the costs of running the podcast by donating a cup of coffee! www.buymeacoffee.com/mentallyflexible


Please subscribe and leave a review on Apple Podcasts. It only takes 30 seconds and plays an important role in being able to get new guests.https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mentally-flexible/id1539933988


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Check out my song “Glimpse at Truth” that you hear in the intro/outro of every episode: https://tomparkes.bandcamp.com/track/glimpse-at-truth


Check out my new album, Holding Space! https://open.spotify.com/album/0iOcjZQhmAhYtjjq3CTpwQ?si=nemiLnELTsGGExjfy8B6iw

Dr. Ronald Asiimwe | Emotionally Focused Healing in a Cross-Cultural Context

Dr. Ronald Asiimwe | Emotionally Focused Healing in a Cross-Cultural Context

My guest today is Dr. Ronald Asiimwe. Dr. Ron is an Assistant Professor at the University of Minnesota in the College of Education and Human Development. He has research and clinical experience in both the U.S. and in his home country of Uganda. His research integrates multicultural perspectives to understand and explore the mental and relational health needs of African families and communities. Driven by his passion for cross-cultural exchange knowledge of evidence-based interventions, Dr. Ron pioneered trainings in emotionally focused therapy (EFT) in Uganda and Kenya. He is currently conducting research to explore the cultural acceptability and applicability of the EFT model in these African settings. 


Some of the topics we explore in this episode include:

- The way witnessing violence during childhood in Uganda shaped Dr. Ron’s future
- What it’s like going back to Uganda to train professionals
- What Dr. Ron finds most valuable about Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
- Unique perspectives on community and connection living in Uganda and the US
- Ethical dynamics of cross cultural work
- And the traumatic impact of colonialism in Africa


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Learn more about Dr. Ron: https://fsos.umn.edu/ronald-asiimwe

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Thank you all for checking out the episode! Here are some ways to help support Mentally Flexible:


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You can help cover some of the costs of running the podcast by donating a cup of coffee! www.buymeacoffee.com/mentallyflexible


Please subscribe and leave a review on Apple Podcasts. It only takes 30 seconds and plays an important role in being able to get new guests.https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mentally-flexible/id1539933988


Follow the show on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mentallyflexible/


Check out my song “Glimpse at Truth” that you hear in the intro/outro of every episode: https://tomparkes.bandcamp.com/track/glimpse-at-truth


Check out my new album, Holding Space! https://open.spotify.com/album/0iOcjZQhmAhYtjjq3CTpwQ?si=nemiLnELTsGGExjfy8B6iw

Donna Jackson Nakazawa | Neuroscience-Based Practices for Trauma

Donna Jackson Nakazawa | Neuroscience-Based Practices for Trauma

My guest today is Donna Jackson Nakazawa. Donna is an award-winning science journalist and author of eight books exploring the connections between emotions, trauma, and health, offering you new pathways to healing. Her book, Girls on the Brink: Helping Our Daughters Thrive in an Era of Increased Anxiety, Depression, and Social Media, was named a best book of 2022 by The Washington Post. Her newest book, The Adverse Childhood Experiences Guided Journal (foreword by Nedra Glover Tawwab), offers targeted writing techniques to help readers recognize the effects of childhood adversity and reset their brain's internal stories for neurobiological resilience. Her writing has appeared in Wired, The Boston Globe, Stat, The Washington Post, and Psychotherapy Networker. She has appeared on The Today Show and NPR and is a regular speaker at events, including the Child Mind Institute, Harvard Science, UCLA Health, Rutgers, Johns Hopkins, Children’s Hospitals, and the Andrew Weil Center for Integrative Medicine. 


Some of the topics we explore in this episode include:
- How Donna’s background informs her new book
- The unique benefits and processes involved in writing as a modality of healing
- The concept of CUTS (chronic unpredictable toxic stress)
- How unpredictable stress leads to hypervigilance 
- Explicit vs implicit memory
- Increasing awareness and self-compassion to heal from trauma

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Donna’s Website: https://donnajacksonnakazawa.com/

The Adverse Childhood Experiences Guided Journal: https://a.co/d/cy1vJJn

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Thank you all for checking out the episode! Here are some ways to help support Mentally Flexible:


Sign up for PsychFlex through the Mentally Flexible link! PsychFlex.com/MentallyFlexible


You can help cover some of the costs of running the podcast by donating a cup of coffee! www.buymeacoffee.com/mentallyflexible


Please subscribe and leave a review on Apple Podcasts. It only takes 30 seconds and plays an important role in being able to get new guests.https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mentally-flexible/id1539933988


Follow the show on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mentallyflexible/


Check out my song “Glimpse at Truth” that you hear in the intro/outro of every episode: https://tomparkes.bandcamp.com/track/glimpse-at-truth


Check out my new album, Holding Space! https://open.spotify.com/album/0iOcjZQhmAhYtjjq3CTpwQ?si=nemiLnELTsGGExjfy8B6iw

Jennifer Kemp, MPsych | Understanding Neurodiversity & Living Authentically

Jennifer Kemp, MPsych | Understanding Neurodiversity & Living Authentically

My guest today is Jennifer Kemp MPsych. Jennifer Kemp is a clinical psychologist based in Adelaide, Australia. Her neurodiversity-affirming approach is founded on her own experience of being late-diagnosed as Autistic and an ADHDer with the experiences of her clients and the latest research. In her therapeutic practice and when training other therapists, Jennifer recognises and accepts the unique differences and strengths of people with different neurotypes. Building on the social and human rights models of disability, Jennifer weaves together acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) with compassion-focused approaches to help her clients improve their mental health and develop greater self-acceptance, self-compassion, and pride in their neurodivergent identity.

Jennifer is the co-author of “The Neurodivergent Skills Workbook for Autism and ADHD: Cultivate Self-Compassion, Live Authentically, and Be Your Own Advocate” and author of “The ACT Workbook for Perfectionism: Build Your Best (Imperfect) Life Using Powerful Acceptance & Commitment Therapy and Self-Compassion Skills.”


Some of the topics we explore in this episode include:
- How Jennifer’s experience of neurodiversity informs her new book
- The concept of masking and some of the ways Jennifer has personally allowed herself to unmask
- "Spins” or special interests
- How a better understanding of neurodiversity enhances our clinical work
- The importance of context when working with neurodiverse clients
- And how to honor the multiple functions of compulsive behavior

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Jennifer’s website: https://jenniferkemp.com.au/

The Neurodivergence Skills Workbook for Autism and ADHD: https://a.co/d/aMM3bFr

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Thank you all for checking out the episode! Here are some ways to help support Mentally Flexible:


Sign up for PsychFlex through the Mentally Flexible link! PsychFlex.com/MentallyFlexible


You can help cover some of the costs of running the podcast by donating a cup of coffee! www.buymeacoffee.com/mentallyflexible


Please subscribe and leave a review on Apple Podcasts. It only takes 30 seconds and plays an important role in being able to get new guests.https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mentally-flexible/id1539933988


Follow the show on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mentallyflexible/


Check out my song “Glimpse at Truth” that you hear in the intro/outro of every episode: https://tomparkes.bandcamp.com/track/glimpse-at-truth


Check out my new album, Holding Space! https://open.spotify.com/album/0iOcjZQhmAhYtjjq3CTpwQ?si=nemiLnELTsGGExjfy8B6iw

Professor Ross White | How A Flexible Mind Can Help You Thrive

Professor Ross White | How A Flexible Mind Can Help You Thrive

My guest today is Professor Ross White. Ross is award-winning clinical psychologist who specializes in supporting the mental health and wellbeing of adults working in high-performance environments. He is also an expert in global mental health and has conducted research in collaborations with the World Health Organization and the United Nations High Commission for Refugees. He is currently Professor of Clinical Psychology at Queen’s University Belfast, and is a director of Strive2Thrive, a training and consultancy organization.


Some of the topics we explore in this episode include:
- How Ross got into ACT and the inspiration for his new book, The Tree That Bends
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The concept of strong intention, light attachment
- The value in developing flexible mindsets
- The “Get, Threat, and Rest” modes we share with trees
- Transcendent emotions of wonderment, gratitude, and compassion
- And how we can amplify the creative process through collaboration

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Ross’s X page: https://x.com/RossGWhite

The Tree That Bends: https://amzn.eu/d/6UEAEqM

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Thank you all for checking out the episode! Here are some ways to help support Mentally Flexible:


Sign up for PsychFlex through the Mentally Flexible link! PsychFlex.com/MentallyFlexible


You can help cover some of the costs of running the podcast by donating a cup of coffee! www.buymeacoffee.com/mentallyflexible


Please subscribe and leave a review on Apple Podcasts. It only takes 30 seconds and plays an important role in being able to get new guests.https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mentally-flexible/id1539933988


Follow the show on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mentallyflexible/


Check out my song “Glimpse at Truth” that you hear in the intro/outro of every episode: https://tomparkes.bandcamp.com/track/glimpse-at-truth


Check out my new album, Holding Space! https://open.spotify.com/album/0iOcjZQhmAhYtjjq3CTpwQ?si=nemiLnELTsGGExjfy8B6iw


Dr. Charles Schaeffer | When Panic Happens

Dr. Charles Schaeffer | When Panic Happens

My guest today is Dr. Charles Schaeffer aka Dr Chuck. Dr. Chuck is a clinical psychologist and author of the new book, When Panic Happens: Short Circuit Anxiety & Fear in the Moment.
 
Dr. Chuck completed his training at New York University and is in private practice in New York City.  He has over 15 years of experience providing strength-focused, evidence-based  therapy to help individuals overcome sleep, mood, and anxiety disorders to thrive at work and at home. He has been an adjunct clinical faculty member at NYU for over a decade supervising  hundreds of counselors and therapists. His research has focused on masculinity and culture among men and women seeking help inside and outside of the workplace. His work has been quoted and featured in a variety of media, including NBC Health, Vice, Psychology Today, and the Huffington Post.

Some of the topics we explore in this episode include:

- How Dr. Chuck got into the field of psychology

- How to work with and around stigma mental health stigma

- The concept of short-circuiting panic 

- Integrating different stances towards anxiety

- Polyvagal Theory and its use for self-regulation

- How people can get stuck in the sympathetic (fight or flight) nervous system

- And the importance of core life patterns like diet and sleep

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Dr. Chuck’s website: https://www.drchuckschaeffer.com/

When Panic Happens: https://a.co/d/eoUwogC

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Thank you all for checking out the episode! Here are some ways to help support Mentally Flexible:


Sign up for PsychFlex through the Mentally Flexible link! PsychFlex.com/MentallyFlexible


You can help cover some of the costs of running the podcast by donating a cup of coffee! www.buymeacoffee.com/mentallyflexible


Please subscribe and leave a review on Apple Podcasts. It only takes 30 seconds and plays an important role in being able to get new guests.https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mentally-flexible/id1539933988


Follow the show on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mentallyflexible/


Check out my song “Glimpse at Truth” that you hear in the intro/outro of every episode: https://tomparkes.bandcamp.com/track/glimpse-at-truth


Check out my new album, Holding Space! https://open.spotify.com/album/0iOcjZQhmAhYtjjq3CTpwQ?si=nemiLnELTsGGExjfy8B6iw

Bio of Mentally Flexible

Mentally Flexible, hosted by Tom Parkes, is a podcast that delves into the realms of psychology, mental health, and creativity to help listeners develop mental flexibility. With an open-minded and curious approach, Tom engages in meaningful conversations that aim to provide insights and understanding of oneself, others, and the world.

As a psychotherapist, Tom brings his expertise and knowledge to each episode, exploring various topics related to psychology and mental health. The podcast encourages listeners to adopt a flexible mindset, allowing for growth, adaptability, and a deeper understanding of the complexities of the human mind.

The conversations on Mentally Flexible cover a wide range of subjects, offering valuable insights and practical tools for personal development.

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