Sober Stories

Title: Overcoming Opioids with Bachelorette alum, Hunter Montgomery

In this episode of Sober Stories, host Beth Bowen sits down with Hunter Montgomery for an honest conversation about his personal journey through opoid addiction and recovery. Starting with an innocuous prescription of Vicodin for a football injury during his university years, Hunter candidly shares how his dependency evolved, leading him down the paths of alcoholism and eventually harder substances like heroin.

A heart-to-heart chat with his grandfather offers a glimpse into the generational perspectives on addiction, and Hunter introduces a relatable analogy, comparing addiction to a shellfish allergy - where exposure could mean life or death. After two rounds in rehab, challenges like a near-prison experience, and a turning point involving an overdose, Hunter's path to recovery finds him in a halfway house and taking on humbling roles, like bagging groceries, marking his journey back to stability.

Hunter's story isn't just about his personal battles; it’s also a call for a broader understanding and dialogue about sobriety. Throughout the episode, he emphasizes the significance of open conversations around the subject. As Hunter puts it, there's value in making "sobriety a trend," not only for personal healing but also for societal acceptance and understanding.

Key Takeaways:  

• Hunter shares how a high school football injury led him, eventually, to a severe addiction to opioids and alcohol in college.

• In college, Hunter’s use increase while we was in a fraternity, and that his fraternity brothers were eventually the ones to call his parents.

• Hunter’s parents helped him go to rehab, but he tells stories of how he assumed he’d go right back to smoking marijuana and using drugs once he was finished. 

• After relapsing 60 days after getting out of rehab, Hunter’s use increased rapidly until he experienced an overdose. Thankfully, he was given a second chance and this experience was his turning point. 

• Hunter notes that he also experienced legal trouble that should have put him in prison, and that also impacts the new lease on life that he feels. 

• During Hunter’s second trip to rehab, he decided to do “the program” to the best of his ability, and he was able to find lasting sobriety from all substances as a result. 

• Hunter and Beth discuss mommy wine culture, and how it’s harming women and mothers. 

• Hunter says he appreciates the alcohol-free movement, and invites everyone to use the word “sober” if it helps them.

• Beth and Hunter discuss the differences between people who get sober with AA and those who don’t, and how wonderful it is that there are so many different ways to get sober in 2023. 

Keywords: Sobriety, the bachelorette, opioid epidemic, alcohol use disorder, alcoholism, substance use disorder, alcohol-free, sober curious, sober, rehab, sobriety conversations

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[Disclaimer:] The content provided in this episode is for informational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for professional clinical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. The discussions and personal experiences shared are based on individual perspectives and should not be interpreted as therapeutic guidance. If you are seeking mental health support, we strongly recommend consulting with a licensed therapist or healthcare professional who can provide personalized care tailored to your specific needs. Remember, everyone's journey is unique, and what works for one person may not work for another. Prioritize your well-being and seek professional help when necessary.

[About Sober Stories:]

Sober Stories is a transformative brand that aims to inspire and empower individuals on their journey to sobriety and beyond. Through their podcast and community, Sober Stories provides a space where people inspire others by sharing their personal narratives of overcoming addiction and embracing a sober lifestyle. By amplifying diverse voices and experiences, Sober Stories cultivates a supportive community that celebrates living alcohol-free as a source of strength and resilience. Their platform showcases powerful stories of recovery, offering hope, encouragement, and relatability to those who may be facing their own struggles with addiction. Sober Stories embraces the power of storytelling as a catalyst for change and healing, fostering a sense of connection and solidarity among individuals seeking a sober life. With a mission to challenge societal stigmas surrounding addiction and promote positive narratives around and alcohol-free life, Sober Stories is a beacon of inspiration and support for all those who are reclaiming their lives and rewriting their own stories of triumph.

[About our host, Beth Bowen:]

Beth Bowen, LMSW, is a dedicated and compassionate licensed social worker and sober coach with a strong focus on supporting individuals in their journey to sobriety and overall mental well-being. With a Master of Social Work degree and specialized training in addiction counseling, Beth brings a wealth of knowledge and expertise to her practice. Her work revolves around trauma-informed care, crisis intervention, and substance misuse recovery. Beth is deeply committed to empowering individuals struggling with addiction, providing them with the necessary tools and strategies to overcome challenges and achieve lasting sobriety. She combines evidence-based therapeutic approaches with her own personal experience in recovery, offering a unique perspective and genuine empathy. Beth's expertise in the field of addiction and her dedication to ongoing professional development make her a valuable resource for those seeking support in their sobriety journey. Through her coaching services, she creates a safe and supportive environment, helping clients navigate the complexities of addiction, heal from past traumas, and build a foundation for a fulfilling and alcohol-free life.

In this episode of Sober Stories, host Beth Bowen welcomes Millie Gooch, founder of Sober Girl Society, for a deep conversation on the journey to sobriety and the importance of creating a supportive, non-judgemental community for those seeking an alcohol-free lifestyle. Millie, an alcohol-free advocate and accomplished author, shares her personal journey, reflecting on how her experiences getting sober as a young woman compelled her to create an online platform dedicated to providing resources and support for those interested in exploring an alcohol-free lifestyle.

 Beth and Millie discuss the way we can redefine socializing without alcohol, including “going out,” dating, and experiencing adventure. Millie emphasizes the necessity of addressing addiction issues promptly, drawing an analogy with extinguishing a small fire before it engulfs an entire building.

Closing the episode, Millie sheds light on the impact the Sober Girl Society platform has had on individuals grappling with alcohol use, as well as their friends and families seeking ways to provide support. She also provides a preview of upcoming events and workshops designed to foster an inclusive and supportive community for those embarking on their sobriety journey.

Key Points:

• Millie's personal journey to sobriety that led her to establish the Sober Girl Society, a safe space online for individuals interested in an alcohol-free lifestyle.

• Redefining what we consider to be “fun” and “glamorous,” especially for young people.

• The importance of addressing addiction issues early and not letting them escalate, likened to extinguishing a small fire before it becomes unmanageable.

• Millie and Beth's discussions on trusting personal experiences, especially when they deviate from societal norms or expectations.

• An exploration of the unique challenges women face in society, particularly regarding drinking culture.

• The power and importance of sober spaces in providing non-judgemental support and community.

• Insights into the role social media can play in either supporting or hindering sobriety.

• The dangers of glamorizing alcohol use in popular media and the importance of pushing back against these narratives.

• A sneak peek into upcoming events and workshops hosted by the Sober Girl Society aimed at building community and promoting sobriety.

Keywords: Sobriety, Mental Health, Millie Gooch, Sober Girl Society, Sober Lifestyle, Alcohol-Free Living, Wellness, Sober Girl Society Handbook, Non-Alcoholic Beverages, Alcohol Change UK, Alcohol and Society, Sobriety and Social Rituals.

[About Millie Gooch]

Millie Gooch is the founder of Sober Girl Society, a global platform supporting those seeking an alcohol-free lifestyle, which she began after choosing sobriety for her own mental health in 2018. A former lifestyle journalist at Hearst Magazines, Millie's articles on sobriety have featured in numerous prestigious publications, and she's a frequent participant in panels and podcasts discussing the topic. Her bestselling book, "The Sober Girl Society Handbook", was published in 2021. Beyond her writing and speaking engagements, she collaborates with major brands to promote a healthier drinking culture, and is a charity ambassador for Alcohol Change UK.

Connect with Millie:

On Instagram - @milliegooch, @sobergirlsociety  

On TikTok - @milliegoochuk

Online - https://sobergirlsociety.com/

Book - The Sober Girl Society Handbook

Events - https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/o/sober-girl-society-21728722753 

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[Disclaimer:] The content provided in this episode is for informational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for professional clinical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. The discussions and personal experiences shared are based on individual perspectives and should not be interpreted as therapeutic guidance. If you are seeking mental health support, we strongly recommend consulting with a licensed therapist or healthcare professional who can provide personalized care tailored to your specific needs. Remember, everyone's journey is unique, and what works for one person may not work for another. Prioritize your well-being and seek professional help when necessary.

[About Sober Stories:]

Sober Stories is a transformative brand that aims to inspire and empower individuals on their journey to sobriety and beyond. Through their podcast and community, Sober Stories provides a space where people inspire others by sharing their personal narratives of overcoming addiction and embracing a sober lifestyle. By amplifying diverse voices and experiences, Sober Stories cultivates a supportive community that celebrates living alcohol-free as a source of strength and resilience. Their platform showcases powerful stories of recovery, offering hope, encouragement, and relatability to those who may be facing their own struggles with addiction. Sober Stories embraces the power of storytelling as a catalyst for change and healing, fostering a sense of connection and solidarity among individuals seeking a sober life. With a mission to challenge societal stigmas surrounding addiction and promote positive narratives around and alcohol-free life, Sober Stories is a beacon of inspiration and support for all those who are reclaiming their lives and rewriting their own stories of triumph.

[About our host, Beth Bowen:]

Beth Bowen, LMSW, is a dedicated and compassionate licensed social worker and sober coach with a strong focus on supporting individuals in their journey to sobriety and overall mental well-being. With a Master of Social Work degree and specialized training in addiction counseling, Beth brings a wealth of knowledge and expertise to her practice. Her work revolves around trauma-informed care, crisis intervention, and substance misuse recovery. Beth is deeply committed to empowering individuals struggling with addiction, providing them with the necessary tools and strategies to overcome challenges and achieve lasting sobriety. She combines evidence-based therapeutic approaches with her own personal experience in recovery, offering a unique perspective and genuine empathy. Beth's expertise in the field of addiction and her dedication to ongoing professional development make her a valuable resource for those seeking support in their sobriety journey. Through her coaching services, she creates a safe and supportive environment, helping clients navigate the complexities of addiction, heal from past traumas, and build a foundation for a fulfilling and alcohol-free life.

Content Warning: This episode includes discussions about eating disorders and cannabis use. If these topics might be triggering for you, please know we always support you skipping to the next episode.

In this episode, Beth interviews Meg Fee, the voice behind the Instagram page @youdonthavetodrink. Meg shares her Sober Story, from her upbringing in an Irish-American family where drinking was normalized, to living in NYC as a young professional, to the intensity of the blackouts she would experience when drinking no matter how much she consumed.

Meg opens up about the challenges she faced with alcohol and cannabis use, and the reality of substituting one addiction for another. Beth and Meg discuss the taboo of cannabis use in the alcohol-free community, and Meg shares how she discosvered she had replaced one addiction with another. Meg candidly shares her experience with cannabis withdrawal, and why she ultimately decided to remove it from her life. 

Meg shared news of her upcoming podcast, "More Than Sobriety” — a podcast aimed at highlighting and supporting sober entrepreneurs, shining a light on an emerging and vibrant segment of the business world. 

Key discussion points from the episode:

• Meg's journey through alcohol addiction and her path to recovery.

• Meg and Beth’s experiences with eating disorders, disordered habits around food and weight

• The complex issue of swapping one addiction for another.

• Meg's experiences with cannabis use and her decision to quit.

• The interplay between addiction and mental health.

• The role of self-awareness in managing sobriety and mental health.

• An introduction to Meg's upcoming podcast, "More Than Sobriety".

• The trend of individuals stepping away from the online Sober Space.

• The importance of holistic personal growth and recovery.

• Meg extends an invitation to our host, Beth, to be a guest on her podcast.

[About Meg Fee]

Meg is a vibrant voice in the world of sobriety, recovery, and personal growth. She's best known for her relatable content on her Instagram handle, @youdonthavetodrink. With a rich personal journey that includes overcoming alcohol addiction and embracing a life beyond sobriety, Meg presents a layered and comprehensive perspective on the path to wellness. As a successful branding expert and marketer, Meg leverages her professional skills to shed light on the booming industry of sober entrepreneurs and zero-proof businesses. Currently, she's embarking on a new venture - her podcast, "More Than Sobriety," where she further amplifies the voices of sober individuals, while demonstrating that life in recovery is multifaceted and extends far beyond the absence of alcohol.

Connect with Meg Fee:

• On Instagram - @youdonthavetodrink, @morethansobriety  
• Online - https://www.morethansobriety.com/
• Podcast - https://open.spotify.com/show/61so4Ky6x9RSJAIA6ABj3Q?si=7ab6fb330cbb40e2
  
  

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[Disclaimer:] The content provided in this episode is for informational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for professional clinical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. The discussions and personal experiences shared are based on individual perspectives and should not be interpreted as therapeutic guidance. If you are seeking mental health support, we strongly recommend consulting with a licensed therapist or healthcare professional who can provide personalized care tailored to your specific needs. Remember, everyone's journey is unique, and what works for one person may not work for another. Prioritize your well-being and seek professional help when necessary.

[About Sober Stories:]

Sober Stories is a transformative brand that aims to inspire and empower individuals on their journey to sobriety and beyond. Through their podcast and community, Sober Stories provides a space where people inspire others by sharing their personal narratives of overcoming addiction and embracing a sober lifestyle. By amplifying diverse voices and experiences, Sober Stories cultivates a supportive community that celebrates living alcohol-free as a source of strength and resilience. Their platform showcases powerful stories of recovery, offering hope, encouragement, and relatability to those who may be facing their own struggles with addiction. Sober Stories embraces the power of storytelling as a catalyst for change and healing, fostering a sense of connection and solidarity among individuals seeking a sober life. With a mission to challenge societal stigmas surrounding addiction and promote positive narratives around and alcohol-free life, Sober Stories is a beacon of inspiration and support for all those who are reclaiming their lives and rewriting their own stories of triumph.

[About our host, Beth Bowen:]

Beth Bowen, LMSW, is a dedicated and compassionate licensed social worker and sober coach with a strong focus on supporting individuals in their journey to sobriety and overall mental well-being. With a Master of Social Work degree and specialized training in addiction counseling, Beth brings a wealth of knowledge and expertise to her practice. Her work revolves around trauma-informed care, crisis intervention, and substance misuse recovery. Beth is deeply committed to empowering individuals struggling with addiction, providing them with the necessary tools and strategies to overcome challenges and achieve lasting sobriety. She combines evidence-based therapeutic approaches with her own personal experience in recovery, offering a unique perspective and genuine empathy. Beth's expertise in the field of addiction and her dedication to ongoing professional development make her a valuable resource for those seeking support in their sobriety journey. Through her coaching services, she creates a safe and supportive environment, helping clients navigate the complexities of addiction, heal from past traumas, and build a foundation for a fulfilling and alcohol-free life.

Keywords: Sobriety, Alcohol Addiction, Cannabis Addiction, Eating Disorder Recovery, Mental Health, Sober Entrepreneurship, Personal Growth, Alcohol-Free

Title: Alcohol + the LGBTQIA+ Community, with Amy C. Willis

In this episode, Sober Stories host, Beth Bowen, interviews Amy C. Willis, a highly respected sober coach known for her unique and holistic approach to sobriety. As a member of the LGBTQIA+ community, Amy provided insight into the interwoven complexities of queerness, substance use, and the recovery process.

Amy's candid reflections on her personal struggle with alcohol addiction and her transformative journey to sobriety provide a powerful testament to the resilience of the human spirit and the potential for change. Amy introduces us to the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) or "tapping," a potent therapeutic tool she employs to facilitate healing and emotional well-being in her clients. Beth and Amy also explore the crucial role of reconnecting with one's body as part of the recovery process, and how this connection can significantly influence one's journey to sobriety. Amy's personal evolution serves as an inspiring beacon for listeners, underscoring the message that change is not only possible but is within the reach of everyone struggling with addiction. This episode is a compelling combination of personal story, professional insights, and practical tools and strategies designed to empower those on their recovery journey. Amy and Beth explore the intertwined journey of sobriety, healing, and personal identity. They shed light on the unique challenges faced by LGBTQIA+ individuals in their recovery journey, underscoring the importance of inclusive and affirming spaces in the wellness industry.

• An enriching discussion with Amy C. Willis, a seasoned sober coach from the LGBTQIA+ community, who sheds light on her personal and professional experiences.

• Amy's intimate sharing of her personal struggle with alcohol addiction and her transformative path towards sobriety.

• A comprehensive introduction to Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) or "tapping" - a novel and effective therapeutic tool that Amy employs in her coaching.

• Deep exploration of the pivotal role of body reconnection during the recovery journey, highlighting its profound impact on facilitating healing and promoting sobriety.

• An intriguing dive into the concept of personal evolution within the context of sobriety and addiction recovery.

• An empowering message of hope and the inherent capacity for change, even when faced with the challenges of substance use disorder.

• The provision of practical tools, strategies, and resources for individuals navigating their recovery journey.

• Amy and Beth delved into the specific challenges and experiences that members of the LGBTQIA+ community face in relation to substance use disorder, and the importance of acknowledging these unique aspects in the recovery process.

• Amy, identifying as a queer woman herself, shared personal insights about her journey to sobriety and how her identity influenced this process.

• They discussed the vital need for inclusive and affirming spaces in the recovery and wellness industry, particularly for LGBTQIA+ individuals seeking support and community.

[About Amy C. Willis]

Amy C. Willis is a seasoned sober coach and founder of Hol + Well, where she offers holistic coaching and healing services tailored to support individuals on their sobriety journey. With her professional background in operations and project management, Amy brings a structured approach to her coaching, guiding her clients with a clear strategy. As a certified EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) Practitioner and Reiki II Practitioner, Amy uniquely integrates these powerful healing modalities into her practice, fostering comprehensive recovery that addresses emotional, physical, and spiritual dimensions.

Her own journey through alcohol addiction and sobriety has informed her approach, allowing Amy to connect deeply with her clients and create a safe, empathetic space for exploration and healing. As a queer woman, she brings a unique sensitivity to the challenges that the LGBTQIA+ community can face during their recovery journey, ensuring that her coaching environment is always inclusive and affirming. Amy's work is characterized by a strong sense of hope and transformation, inspiring and empowering her clients to embrace change and reclaim their wellbeing.

Connect with Amy C Willis:

• On Instagram - @msamycwillis
• Facebook group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/holandwellsobercollective
• Online - https://www.holandwell.com/

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Use code SOBERSTORIES for $50 off The Booze Breakup program.

[Disclaimer:] The content provided in this episode is for informational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for professional clinical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. The discussions and personal experiences shared are based on individual perspectives and should not be interpreted as therapeutic guidance. If you are seeking mental health support, we strongly recommend consulting with a licensed therapist or healthcare professional who can provide personalized care tailored to your specific needs. Remember, everyone's journey is unique, and what works for one person may not work for another. Prioritize your well-being and seek professional help when necessary.

[About Sober Stories:]

Sober Stories is a transformative brand that aims to inspire and empower individuals on their journey to sobriety and beyond. Through their podcast and community, Sober Stories provides a space where people inspire others by sharing their personal narratives of overcoming addiction and embracing a sober lifestyle. By amplifying diverse voices and experiences, Sober Stories cultivates a supportive community that celebrates living alcohol-free as a source of strength and resilience. Their platform showcases powerful stories of recovery, offering hope, encouragement, and relatability to those who may be facing their own struggles with addiction. Sober Stories embraces the power of storytelling as a catalyst for change and healing, fostering a sense of connection and solidarity among individuals seeking a sober life. With a mission to challenge societal stigmas surrounding addiction and promote positive narratives around and alcohol-free life, Sober Stories is a beacon of inspiration and support for all those who are reclaiming their lives and rewriting their own stories of triumph.

[About our host, Beth Bowen:]

Beth Bowen, LMSW, is a dedicated and compassionate licensed social worker and sober coach with a strong focus on supporting individuals in their journey to sobriety and overall mental well-being. With a Master of Social Work degree and specialized training in addiction counseling, Beth brings a wealth of knowledge and expertise to her practice. Her work revolves around trauma-informed care, crisis intervention, and substance misuse recovery. Beth is deeply committed to empowering individuals struggling with addiction, providing them with the necessary tools and strategies to overcome challenges and achieve lasting sobriety. She combines evidence-based therapeutic approaches with her own personal experience in recovery, offering a unique perspective and genuine empathy. Beth's expertise in the field of addiction and her dedication to ongoing professional development make her a valuable resource for those seeking support in their sobriety journey. Through her coaching services, she creates a safe and supportive environment, helping clients navigate the complexities of addiction, heal from past traumas, and build a foundation for a fulfilling and alcohol-free life.

Keywords: Sobriety, Alcohol Addiction, EFT, Emotional Freedom Technique, Tapping, LGBTQIA+, Queer, Sober, Sober Coach

[Title]: The Sober Black Girls Club: Embracing Sobriety, Authenticity, and Joy with Khadi A. Oluwatoyin

Khadi Oluwatoyin, a Nigerian-American, was born and raised in the heart of New York but is currently living in Tulsa Oklahoma, home of Black Wall Street and first settled by the Lochapoka Band of Creek Native American tribe. Khadi is an attorney, mental health and sobriety advocate, consultant, community builder, and social entrepreneur. Her work over the last few years has focused on increasing the wellness of Black girls, women, femmes, non-conforming folks, and queer folks of color.

Khadi created Sober Black Girls Club in 2018 when she decided to get sober and noticed that many pro-sober platforms did not cater to girls and women who looked like her or shared similar cultural and societal experiences. At the time, SBGC was just a blog. Today, it is a coast-to-coast, 501(c)(3) collective that, in addition to the blog, runs a newsletter, mentorship program, four weekly support meetings, and more. Khadi and Sober Black Girls Club have been featured in several publications including the Red Table Talk, The Washington Post, The Huff Post, Teen Vogue, Mademoiselle, and Shondaland.

[Episode Summary]: 

In this episode, Beth Bowen interviews Khadi A. Oluwatoyin, the founder of the Sober Black Girls Club (SBGC), an empowering online community and support network for Black women navigating sobriety. Khadi shares her personal journey with addiction, shedding light on the cultural pressures of perfectionism ingrained in her Nigerian upbringing that masked her struggles. She explores the transformative power of vulnerability, authenticity, and self-acceptance in her path towards sobriety. Khadi also discusses the importance of creating spaces that prioritize joy, pleasure, and community, challenging the traditional narratives around recovery. Her work with SBGC aims to break free from societal norms and create a safe and inclusive space for Black women to embrace sobriety on their terms.

[Episode Highlights]:

• Khadi's personal journey with addiction and the cultural pressures of perfectionism in her Nigerian upbringing.

• The transformative power of vulnerability, authenticity, and self-acceptance in Khadi's path towards sobriety.

• The mission and vision of the Sober Black Girls Club (SBGC) and its role in empowering Black women in their sobriety journeys.

• Challenging traditional narratives around recovery by prioritizing joy, pleasure, and community within the SBGC.

• The importance of creating safe and inclusive spaces for Black women to navigate sobriety and embrace their authentic selves.

• Khadi's current work on the SBGC, including the development of a Tulsa-based sober bar and her focus on building community beyond the confines of traditional recovery spaces.

[Timestamps]:

• [00:00] Introduction to the episode and guest, Khadi A. Oluwatoyin.

• [02:30] Khadi shares her personal journey with addiction and the cultural pressures she faced in her Nigerian upbringing.

• [09:15] The transformative power of vulnerability, authenticity, and self-acceptance in Khadi's path towards sobriety.

• [14:50] The mission and vision of the Sober Black Girls Club (SBGC) and its role in empowering Black women in their sobriety journeys.

• [19:30] Challenging traditional narratives around recovery by prioritizing joy, pleasure, and community within the SBGC.

• [24:10] Creating safe and inclusive spaces for Black women to navigate sobriety and embrace their authentic selves.

• [29:40] Khadi's current work on the SBGC, including the development of a Tulsa-based sober bar and her focus on building community beyond traditional recovery spaces.

• [33:15] Wrap-up and final thoughts.

[Bio - Sober Black Girls Club]: 

The Sober Black Girls Club (SBGC) is an empowering online community and support network created by Khadi A. Oluwatoyin. Dedicated to uplifting Black women on their sobriety journeys, SBGC challenges societal norms and traditional narratives around recovery. Through its inclusive and joyful approach, SBGC provides a safe space for Black women to embrace sobriety on their own terms, free from judgment. The community fosters connection, support, and celebration, emphasizing self-love, self-acceptance, and authentic living. SBGC is on a mission to redefine the narrative of sobriety and create a lasting impact by empowering Black women to live their best lives.

[Guest Bio - Khadi A. Oluwatoyin]: 

Khadi A. Oluwatoyin is the founder of the Sober Black Girls Club (SBGC) and a passionate advocate for sobriety, authenticity, and joy. Drawing from her personal experience with addiction and her Nigerian heritage, Khadi is dedicated to breaking the stigma surrounding sobriety in the Black community and creating inclusive spaces for Black women to thrive. With her unique perspective and commitment to empowering others, Khadi is on a mission to redefine the narrative of sobriety and inspire individuals to live their best lives. 

Connect with Khadi on Twitter and Instagram at @soberblackgirlsclub.

Connect with Khadi Oluwatoyin: 

• Learn more about the Sober Black Girls Club: https://soberblackgirlsclub.com/

• Follow Sober Black Girls Club on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/soberblackgirlsclub/

• Connect with Khadi A. Oluwatoyin on Twitter and Instagram: @KatieForever

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Use code SOBERSTORIES for $50 off The Booze Breakup program.

Keywords: Sobriety, Addiction, Alcohol-Free, Sober, Recovery, Representation, Sober Black Girls Club, Khadi A. Oluwatoyin, Beth Bowen Podcast, Substance Addiction, Sobriety Journey.

Sober Stories is a transformative brand that aims to inspire and empower individuals on their journey to sobriety and beyond. Through their podcast and community, Sober Stories provides a space where people inspire others by sharing their personal narratives of overcoming addiction and embracing a sober lifestyle. By amplifying diverse voices and experiences, Sober Stories cultivates a supportive community that celebrates living alcohol-free as a source of strength and resilience. Their platform showcases powerful stories of recovery, offering hope, encouragement, and relatability to those who may be facing their own struggles with addiction. Sober Stories embraces the power of storytelling as a catalyst for change and healing, fostering a sense of connection and solidarity among individuals seeking a sober life. With a mission to challenge societal stigmas surrounding addiction and promote positive narratives around and alcohol-free life, Sober Stories is a beacon of inspiration and support for all those who are reclaiming their lives and rewriting their own stories of triumph.

Beth Bowen, LMSW, is a dedicated and compassionate licensed social worker and sober coach with a strong focus on supporting individuals in their journey to sobriety and overall mental well-being. With a Master of Social Work degree and specialized training in addiction counseling, Beth brings a wealth of knowledge and expertise to her practice. Her work revolves around trauma-informed care, crisis intervention, and substance misuse recovery. Beth is deeply committed to empowering individuals struggling with addiction, providing them with the necessary tools and strategies to overcome challenges and achieve lasting sobriety. She combines evidence-based therapeutic approaches with her own personal experience in recovery, offering a unique perspective and genuine empathy. Beth's expertise in the field of addiction and her dedication to ongoing professional development make her a valuable resource for those seeking support in their sobriety journey. Through her coaching services, she creates a safe and supportive environment, helping clients navigate the complexities of addiction, heal from past traumas, and build a foundation for a fulfilling and alcohol-free life.

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Title: Duality: Navigating Life's Contrasts with Bachelor Alum, Dr. Taylor Nolan

Dr. Taylor Nolan is a celebrated mental health advocate, therapist, and podcast host known for her compassionate and authentic approach to navigating complex emotional and psychological issues. With a master's degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling and a doctorate in Human Sexuality, Taylor brings a unique perspective to her work, combining her expertise in mental health and sexuality to create a safe and inclusive space for her clients. Through her private practice, Counseling Ordinary Courage, Taylor offers therapy services and resources to individuals in Washington state, supporting them in their journey towards healing and personal growth. With her refreshing candor and commitment to destigmatizing mental health, Taylor continues to inspire and empower others through her insightful conversations, speaking engagements, and online presence. She has also just launched a podcast of her own, “Here We Go,” cohosted with her chosen father, Robb Valentine. 

[Content Warning]: This episode contains discussions of sensitive topics, including sexual assault, trauma, mental health, addiction, and personal struggles. These conversations are intended to provide insight and support to individuals navigating similar experiences, but they may be triggering or emotionally distressing for some listeners. We advise discretion while listening, and encourage you to prioritize your well-being and seek support if needed. Remember, it's okay to take breaks or skip sections that feel overwhelming. Your mental and emotional health are important to us. Additionally, this podcast is not intended as clinical advice 

Description: Join host Beth Bowen in a candid and insightful conversation with Taylor Nolan, a renowned mental health professional and former contestant on The Bachelor (Season 21 — Nick Viall’s season) and Bachelor in Paradise (Season 4). In this episode, Taylor opens up about her personal journey of embracing sobriety and navigating the complexities of life, especially during her time filming the Bachelor. Discover how she challenges societal norms by being a non-drinker, embraces duality by holding multiple realities at once, and finds strength in being misunderstood. Gain valuable insights into the importance of self-care, recognizing one's worthiness, and breaking free from harmful coping mechanisms. Whether you're sober-curious or seeking inspiration, this episode offers a refreshing perspective on living an alcohol-free life.

Keywords: sobriety, sober, alcohol-free, mental health, The Bachelor, embracing duality, self-care, worthiness, harmful coping mechanisms, Bachelor in Paradise, therapy, inspiration, non-drinker, Capitalism, the patriarchy, combatting racism, coping

Show Notes:

• Introduction: Beth Bowen welcomes listeners to an episode that delves into the profound journey of embracing sobriety and navigating the complexities of life. She introduces Taylor Nolan, a mental health professional and former contestant on The Bachelor, known for her candid and insightful perspectives.

• Taylor's Background and The Bachelor Experience: Beth and Taylor discuss Taylor's background and her experience on The Bachelor. They touch upon the challenges of being on a reality dating show and the impact it had on Taylor's life. They discuss what it was like to film the show without drinking, how alcohol is interwoven into Bachelor culture, and how the environment sets women up to drink to excess. 

• Embracing Duality and Navigating Life's Contrasts: Taylor shares her profound belief in embracing duality and navigating life's contrasts. She speaks about her experiences and how being both Black and white has shaped her identity. Taylor discusses how these contrasts have made her a controversial figure and how she often finds herself in conflict while seeking resolution.

• Taylor's Journey towards Sobriety: Taylor opens up about her personal journey towards sobriety and her decision to live an alcohol-free life. She discusses the societal pressure to conform and her resistance to it, highlighting the importance of embracing sobriety as a path to self-discovery and growth.

• The Importance of Self-Care and Worthiness: Beth and Taylor explore the significance of self-care and recognizing one's worthiness. They discuss the challenges of prioritizing oneself and the societal narratives that often undermine self-worth. Taylor shares her own experiences and offers valuable insights on practicing self-care and embracing self-worth.

• Breaking Free from Harmful Coping Mechanisms: Taylor reflects on the pitfalls of harmful coping mechanisms and the need to address underlying issues. She emphasizes the importance of seeking support and professional help in overcoming these patterns. Taylor provides practical tips for breaking free from harmful coping mechanisms and fostering healthier habits.

• Embracing Vulnerability and Being Misunderstood: Taylor discusses the impact of social media on self-expression and the challenges of embracing vulnerability. She shares her experiences of being misunderstood and the toll it can take on one's mental health. Taylor highlights the power of authenticity and the importance of staying true to oneself, even in the face of misunderstanding.

• “The Trifuckery:” Taylor names the 3-pronged combination of capitalism, white supremacy, and the patriarchy, and Beth and Taylor discuss how people living under these systems are often oppressed, overworked, and forced to cope in maladaptive ways as a result. 

• Connecting with Taylor Nolan: Beth and Taylor discuss the various platforms available for connecting with Taylor and accessing her valuable content. They mention Taylor's website, TaylorNolan.com, which includes links to her Instagram, affiliates for supporting her work, and her presence on platforms like OnlyFans and Patreon.

• Taylor's Therapy Practice: Taylor shares information about her therapy practice, Counseling Ordinary Courage, and the services she offers in Washington state. She encourages listeners in need of therapy services to explore her practice for support in their mental health journey.

Connect with Taylor Nolan:

• On Instagram - @taymocha,  @herewego.pod
• Podcast: “Here We Go” with Robb Valentine
• Online - Website
• Therapy Services (WA State): https://counselingordinarycourage.com/
• OnlyFans: https://onlyfans.com/taymocha
• Patreon: https://patreon.com/taymocha

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[Disclaimer:] The content provided in this episode is for informational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for professional clinical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. The discussions and personal experiences shared are based on individual perspectives and should not be interpreted as therapeutic guidance. If you are seeking mental health support, we strongly recommend consulting with a licensed therapist or healthcare professional who can provide personalized care tailored to your specific needs. Remember, everyone's journey is unique, and what works for one person may not work for another. Prioritize your well-being and seek professional help when necessary.

Sober Stories is a transformative brand that aims to inspire and empower individuals on their journey to sobriety and beyond. Through their podcast and community, Sober Stories provides a space where people inspire others by sharing their personal narratives of overcoming addiction and embracing a sober lifestyle. By amplifying diverse voices and experiences, Sober Stories cultivates a supportive community that celebrates living alcohol-free as a source of strength and resilience. Their platform showcases powerful stories of recovery, offering hope, encouragement, and relatability to those who may be facing their own struggles with addiction. Sober Stories embraces the power of storytelling as a catalyst for change and healing, fostering a sense of connection and solidarity among individuals seeking a sober life. With a mission to challenge societal stigmas surrounding addiction and promote positive narratives around and alcohol-free life, Sober Stories is a beacon of inspiration and support for all those who are reclaiming their lives and rewriting their own stories of triumph.

Beth Bowen, LMSW, is a dedicated and compassionate licensed social worker and sober coach with a strong focus on supporting individuals in their journey to sobriety and overall mental well-being. With a Master of Social Work degree and specialized training in addiction counseling, Beth brings a wealth of knowledge and expertise to her practice. Her work revolves around trauma-informed care, crisis intervention, and substance misuse recovery. Beth is deeply committed to empowering individuals struggling with addiction, providing them with the necessary tools and strategies to overcome challenges and achieve lasting sobriety. She combines evidence-based therapeutic approaches with her own personal experience in recovery, offering a unique perspective and genuine empathy. Beth's expertise in the field of addiction and her dedication to ongoing professional development make her a valuable resource for those seeking support in their sobriety journey. Through her coaching services, she creates a safe and supportive environment, helping clients navigate the complexities of addiction, heal from past traumas, and build a foundation for a fulfilling and alcohol-free life.

Jennie Canzoneri joins Sober Stories host Beth Bowen to talk about self-compassion and gentle self-talk after we make mistakes. Jennie shares her experience drinking again after long-term abstinence, how she returned to her sobriety, and all of the thoughts and self-talk that came along the way. Beth and Jenny talk about having to re-learn how to cope in healthy ways, the power of community, and how our “why’s” can evolve over time. Jennie explains the bloodwork that “scared her awake,” and Beth and Jennie discuss the ripple effect of our choice to quit drinking. Jennie shares what her story would be called: "She was scared, but she did it anyway."

Jennie Canzoneri is a wife, mom, and recent Coloradan, moving to the Denver area just a couple of months ago. She's enjoying so much hiking and wildlife spotting these days. She has also been sober since June 2020, has a small hand-lettering business, and likes to read as much as possible (even if reading is sometimes code for scrolling through Instagram). She's dreaming up a sober retreat for 2023, where she can combine her love of sober living with her fierce love of community building.

Key Takeaways:

• Finding clarity in your community: who is a safe container vs. who is not 
• How to be compassionate with yourself in sobriety and work on inner self-talk
• Tips on how to get through the thick of it when you ditch the booze

Connect with Jennie:

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/jenniecanzoneri/

TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@jenniecanzoneri

Jennie’s Sober Stories blog contribution - https://wearesoberstories.com/jennie-canzoneri-ive-felt-it-all/

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Kevin Kreider of Bling Empire joins Sober Stories host Beth Bowen to discuss alcohol in Hollywood, how sobriety gives us everything we thought we’d get from alcohol and the importance of visibility of minority communities in recovery. Beth and Kevin talk about how his sobriety has been represented on the show, Bling Empire, and how that visibility encouraged him to create his own non-alcoholic beverage brand, Sans. Kevin gives a few behind-the-scenes looks at the Bling Empire production and cast, and Beth and Kevin discuss the beauty of long-term sobriety. Kevin shares what his story would be called: "Damn, that’s a good one."

Kevin Kreider is an Actor, Speaker, Founder, and CEO of Sans. Starting off in the fitness industry, he was signed with one of the most prestigious modeling agencies in NYC. He left Philly in 2008 to navigate his way in entertainment as a Korean American adoptee. In 2014, the stress and non-stop nature of the modeling industry took a toll on his body, and Kevin was diagnosed with Alopecia Areata. He took a few years off, got sober in 2015, and took a leap of faith by moving to Los Angeles. There he was offered a role in Netflix's international hit, "Bling Empire", the first all Asian and Asian American reality show.

Connect with Kevin:

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kevin.kreider/ , https://www.instagram.com/doyousans/ 

Website - https://www.doyousans.com/ 

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Content warning: In this episode, our guest discusses childhood abuse/neglect and suicidal ideation/attempt. 

Inaya Zuwena joins Sober Stories host Beth Bowen to discuss how sobriety has helped her work through childhood trauma and PTSD, the “rock bottom” that prompted her to get sober, and how sobriety unlocked her queer identity as a bisexual woman. Beth and Inaya talk about how her sobriety has evolved away from the 12 Steps and labels like “alcoholic,” and Inaya tells the story of reconnecting with her partner, Tom, after she quit drinking. Inaya explains the power of community in her sobriety, and Beth and Inaya discuss the sober community that Inaya is building in Austin, TX. Inaya shares what her story would be called: "Divine Guidance."

Inaya Zuwena is the founder of Austin Sober Social Club, a social space for all who are sober, sober-curious, or alcohol-free. The club was founded in October 2021 with the goal to build community and show others that you can have fun without the presence of alcohol. In addition to running the club, Inaya is also a part-time cat sitter and full-time cat mother of three. She lives in Austin, TX with her partner of three years, Tom.

Key Takeaways:

• The ancillary behaviors alcohol can bring
• Building community and authentic connections in the sober space
• Coping mechanisms in sobriety

Connect with Inaya:

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/inaya.zuwena/

https://www.instagram.com/austinsobersocial/

https://www.instagram.com/queersoberatx/

https://www.instagram.com/catladyatx/

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Use code SOBERSTORIES for $50 off The Booze Breakup program.